[luckystarmom]

I’m not very prim and proper. My 12 year old twin daughters do not own gloves, and they don’t know how to pour tea.

However, they are very modest. They still wear shorts under their dresses because they are worried about seeing them. They won’t wear 2 piece bathing suits except for tankinis that cover everything, and that is usually only at home. They won’t wear spaghetti straps. They don’t even like to wear tank tops with shorts. They also only wear bermuda shorts.

I have not set these dressing rules up. This is all on their own. They’ve heard a lot about dressing modestly at church, and I’ll make comments about clothes that other girls wear. However, I’ve never had to make clothes an issue for my daughters.

Also, one of my daughter’s friends is thinking of getting a third piercing in her ear, and my daughter is trying to convince her not to. My daughter thinks it’s stupid and gross.

I hope it continues through their teen years.

[Constitutions Grandchild]

Good luck with that, Mom! I let my son choose his clothes and hair and even a pierced ear for a couple of months. I set the standards for what was expected when he was with me or represented us at church.

I concentrated on character and figured he'd stop looking like a dolt sooner or later. Amazingly, he did. He still looks drop-dead gorgeous in a suit (of course, most Marines clean up real well). Can't wait to see him in his dress blues. I think I'll probably tear up. I try never to tell him as I thought the inside was more important — but he IS handsome. (Shush! We won't tell him I said that)

[DJ MacWoW]

Sounds like they are wonderful, modest young women at 12. And don’t kid yourself, they’ve watched Mom and learned. It also sounds like they value themselves as people which shows in their modesty. I hope with you that it continues. We need more young ladies and fewer hoydens. Grandma called me a hoyden on occasion. I was 12. LOL

[SuziQ]

Your girls sound like our daughter. I've never been very 'girly', and she inherited that. She never could stand what passed for fashion for girls her age. No 'belly shirts', no short shorts, no two piece bathing suits. She usually ended up wearing jeans and t-shirts for every day, or nice slacks and blouses for Mass.

She absolutely HATES dresses, and only wears them if she absolutely HAS to. She had to wear skirts for her Catholic school in 5th, 6th and 7th grades, but then we started homeschooling her, and she was happy about not having to wear the skirt anymore. She tried to get away with wearing her Church slacks for Confirmation, but we nixed that, and she does wear a skirt for her college choir. Nowadays, though, she's becoming a little more flexible, and she let me get some clothes for her from J.Jill this summer. They were cute outfits, but still not TOO girly.