This response makes me sad on a number of levels.
1) Partnerships do not mean that everyone is contributing in the same way. If, in fact, each member of the team is performing their part rather than trying to do everything, the results are generally better. The statement that men should help with the housework, women should help with the finances is as bad as saying that women should stay home, barefoot and pregnant.
2) You have no idea what role she was playing on “their team”. No matter how close you were to the situation, unless you were one of the participants, you don’t know her contribution.
3) That a bunch of people at a funeral weren’t nominating her for a Nobel Prize doesn’t mean that her life was not the one that she wanted. It was, after all, her life, not the spectators’ life.
4) Her total value (all of our total values) lies in our existence as children of God and not in some subjective measurement of productivity.
5) Neither she, nor you, nor I am responsible to anyone else to serve the whole (college education not withstanding).
It’s only in the last year that I went back to work. There is no way people who actually know me would not have anything to say about me. (now the in-laws might not have anything to say, but that’s because after all this time they still don’t know me). I do so many things and have so many interests. I take gigs and work p/t, but that comes after my home life.