I have a S&W M&P 9mm compact. Love it. The M&P family of semi-autos are very popular. There were some magazine retention issues with the first run, I think, but if you get anything manufactured after 1/07 (or even before) you won’t have a problem. No experience with the 45, or with the full size. My 9mm compact has been great.
I was looking at a 9mm for Mrs Bear. The dealer suggested a light weight 38 revolver instead (forget the model). I’ve done rapid malfunction clears. I’d rather not have her need to worry about it.
Her eyes lit up when she examined the weapon. I’m gonna keep her.
;-)