Look at it this way. Virgie was married many times. I don't know how many but it was posted here. Maybe 5. Assume ANS is telling the truth about being raped by her "father". Molested children often harbor great resentment towards parents. It festers. It is complicated. Mixed emotions. Upon the death of the grandchild it is conceivable that she would call the grandmother and let her know and still harbor great rage towards her.