The first few years my sons were married I cooked and no one helped or offered to have it at their place.
My husband said that's it, they can entertain themselves.
It's been great!
When I first moved away - I used to schlep home for the holidays. I would fly home, rent a car, stay at a hotel, and run around to see the family.
I quit. Now, if you want to see me - I'll be sitting on a beach somewhere or by a pool.
In fact, I used to go to a wonderful spa for years - we'd eat healthy and get some sun - a few massages and a facial and show up back to work feeling mighty fine. Less money than going home - and I'm better off for it.