After are lifetime of watching the marriages of friends, family and acquaintances fail--there are some common follies.
There are many witches from hell out there. But the worst marriages I have seen, the ones to fall apart the quickest--were the ones where the man married a waistline. For every witch, there's a man who must marry that witch's waistline. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I've been assured by many men that this is most natural and desireable.
These are the guys who assure me that "gals don't do for nice guys." What they mean is that they can't see the nice gals who don't have the right physical attributes, but the witches who have the right ones won't give them the attention a nice guy deserves.
Frankly, the golddigging woman seems to have better sense than the guy who only wants a hip-to-waist ratio...
If I remember right, this is your first post on this thread. Obviously you have given the issue some thought and were just waiting to use that A-bomb.
You are right, of course, and it's almost an unavoidable trap.
Just convince me that it's not also a female failing. Show me the female who also does not gravitate to the "hunks". The arguable difference is that guys tend to learn the value of "other things" more quickly after failure.
The advantage of being fortunate enough to have a genuine second chance benefits both if there are no children involved. Unfortunately, for both sexes, in the overwhelming number of cases, when children are involved, there is no second chance for either to have the traditional family life. Or to date accordingly.
Brings to mind the song that says "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly woman your wife." LOL! Shoot. Now I have that song going through my head, too.