It was 14 months after my husband's death when I met Disaster #1. For the first 12 months after he died, I was a zombie and could not think about anything. Then I seemed to wake up and tried to make a life. I think I was too vulnerable at that time and too afraid of being alone. Otherwise, I don't think I would have been taken in by that man. Hopefully, I am wiser now, but I have not dated in a year. I really did not have very good experiences dating. Also, I have never really gotten through my grieving I guess.
I am also a widow (17 months along) and was just curious about your experience. God bless you and I am sorry for your loss.