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You are forgiven but seriously I've had some humdingingly bad weeks, like when my first husband would physically beat on me instead of the usual mental abuse and the thought that all men are worthless, drunk, wife beating adulterers never entered my head. And I'm a pretty emotional woman. The blame went where it belonged, on him.

I hope you never have to live through another week like the one that inspired that ugliness. FWIW, my first husband was always bitching about money, mostly about how much I spent at the grocery store. Trust me when I say I'm frugal. I bought very few clothes, I had two pair of shoes, one for work and a pair of tennis shoes. He OTOH had oodles of clothing and shoes. Whatever he wanted he bought, whether we could afford it or not. When I told him that we needed to buy our one year old a winter coat his response was, "Can't we just wrap her up in a blanket like we did last year?" He was serious!

And guess who was whoring around before and after we were married, not me... There are no words to describe how it feels to be 8 months pregnant with your husband's child and one day he comes home with a hickey the size of a golf ball on the front of his neck. As if adultery wasn't bad enough, a hickey! A hickey!! And no, the ex had no reason to stray (if you know what I mean). He did it because he could. Sound familiar?

I hate to see anyone unhappy Clemenza which is why I am giving you these examples of how my ex espoused all those nasty ideas you did about women but he was the one who was guilty of it all. Your outburst seems to me to be a little too close to the surface, not a one time chance occurrence because of a bad week. I hope I'm very wrong about that assessment.

If it's necessary, change your attitude about women (yes all of them) and the good ones will find you.

Take care.