Christian marriage counselling sounds real good... trouble is, a man can't lead a woman that refuses to follow. American women only follow if you're leading to where they wanted to go in the first place.
And yet he is still called to, look how awful we as Christians are towards Christ. A husbands relationship with his wife is a reflection of Christ relationship with the church. If she refuses to be led you need to lovingly put your foot down (must have a solid scriptural footing) as the husband. Remember Hosea, Commanded to marry and love a whore, who was not faithful to him. This was an example of Gods love for Israel who in their way were unfaithful to God.
American women only follow if you're leading to where they wanted to go in the first place.
While the sin might be with an unfaithful and a poor wife Biblically the responsibility lies with the husband. As a husband your love should be so complete that it overwhelms her. Is this to say that you should not correct her? no you absolutely should and in doing so give scripture as the basis for your points.
As a husband you are to be a priest to your family, love them like Jesus loves the church, and are 100% responsible for the state of your house. It helps greatly if your wife wants to serve God because you can point to her Gods will for marriage.
When a wife refuses you should go to a pastor and get advice, I am *not* a marriage counselor, nor am I a very experienced husband (not married two years yet) so take my words with what restraint you feel is needed.