[Max Combined]

"Quit drinking, I realize I am making an assumption but many 26 year-olds haven't given up the frat boy life style."

Many 45 year old happily married men still drink.

[muir_redwoods]

"Many 45 year old happily married men still drink."

And darn few of them write to FR for marital advice. With the lack of detail in the original post it seems clear something is wrong. Sadly, alcohol is often the problem or one of the problems.