[speed_addiction]

I also have a 44-year-old son who is going on 12. He was lucky enough to find a kindred spirit, but is not yet married, supports himself, motorcycles is his life. As long as his partner can deal with it, it "works". Unfortunately, when children are in the picture, things enter a whole different universe.

I was not going to get into it, but my divorce came about when my ex-wife and her lover tried to kill me. My house got shot up and someone wound up shot in the chest and neck. She had been screwing this guy for a year, decided I had to go. I do get a bit of satisfaction now, knowing she is getting treated like sh!t and being beat on a constant basis. She has called me twice begging for a second chance. I loved her with an intensity that has never really diminished, but sometimes LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!

[MadAnthony1776]

Glad to see you made it out alive. If she's willing to do it once, what's it to say she wouldn't do it again. Trust is the most important thing besides love in a marriage and when you throw out the trust, love won't be enough to salvage the marriage. In your ex's case the grass looked greener on the other side until she got there. Now it's to late. I hope you find someone who honestly cares about you and not just herself.

[BureaucratusMaximus]

I do get a bit of satisfaction now, knowing she is getting treated like sh!t and being beat on a constant basis.

That's just not right dude.