The purpose is not to get advice. If you watch, almost every bit of advice he gets will either not be acknowledged or rejected. This is about getting beat up.
She can't depend on me for anything.
He gets beat up every day by her and that's not enough. He comes here with a vanity post after being here for about 18 months knowing darn well that he's going to get beat up here for it also. This is victim mentality.
I have to admit that I love these kind of threads however. I think of them as FreeRepublic Rorschach Tests. Everybody brings their own stuff with them and freely posts it. Kind of entertaining.
Your wrong. Yes I knew there are people like you on this site that would smell blood and attack. Just read the replies for yourself. I also knew that there are caring people here that will try to help. One thing I got from the responses is to have myself checked for ADD.
I think of these threads more as throwing chum into shark-infested waters. Yes, the entertainment value is high unless you're the one in the water when the skipper throws the chum bucket overboard.
It sounds to me like you are in an abusive relationship. The whole, "I need to grow up" thing sounds like an abused woman explaining why it is her fault she gets beaten because the scrambled eggs are a little runny. You taking full responsibility for something that is clearly an issue with both of you is a big sign. That plus her refusal to go to counseling. She doesn't have a problem with the way things are right now...she is in the driver's seat. She isn't physically beating you, she is emotionally beating you...largely with insults to your manhood and threats of divorce.
My diagnosis: spousal abuse. And you are on the receiving end.
Treatment: Perhaps the 'learn to slap a ho' isn't to far off (I am aware of one abused woman who put an end to it real quick after smacking her abusive boyfriend with a hot frying pan...they even managed to work it out at least for a little while...don't know if they are still together.) But the point is that you both need help. You to get out of your victim complex and her to get out of her abusive ways. The abuse needs to end. If that can happen together, great. If it doesn't, you need to get out, and take your son with you. Documentation will be very important, as the courts strongly favor women, but you cannot allow your son to grow up in an emotionally abusive environment.
All that said, I could be totally off base. And if you have you the abused victim complex, you will insist that I am.