Posted on 12/20/2004 6:41:03 AM PST by kerouacbal
I am 26 years old and have been married for 2 years. I am having trouble growing up and I am driving my wife nuts. It has gotten to the point that my wife talks about divorce almost every day. I want to work this out more then I every wanted anything but I can't seem to do it or do it quick enough. I can't seem to remember consistently to do every day things like take out the garbage make sure all the doors are locked and the heat is off at night (there is a lot more but won't get into it all). I am posting this here to try to get some advise on how to help my self grow up and start to take care of my wife and son better like a husband should. My parents are dead and I don't have a close family member or friend to get advise from. Could someone please help me.
"Stop getting too stoned."
Sorry. I see you wrote that he should stop getting too stoned, not stop getting stoned.
I can cop to that. Getting too stoned is not good, although it is pretty hard to get too stoned unless one has come across some really killer shit or one has eaten too many hash brownies.
The rest makes me soooo glad I am single!
"Marriage is for adults, my friend."
Yes, adults but not for slaves. He is already bringing home the bacon and you suggest he get busy in his spare time doing the laundry and washing the dishes.
Which leaves more time for his wife to bitc*, I suppose.
....the baby diaper thing..its unforgivable,....
Yeah, the baby diaper thing. My first wife was so lazy that she decided it would be a good idea to put the huge plastic pail for the cotton diapers in the baby's room on the second floor. So she did and filled it with water with pails from the bathtub faucet, so she could flip the dirty diaper in it as needed. She didn't see that the pail got a hole in the bottom from all the water weight, so the dirty water slowly drained from the pail, through the oak floor.
When the ceiling came gushing down in sheets in the living room she noticed that there was a problem, but had to wait for me to get home seven hours later to start to clean up the mess.
Bitch!!
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Proponents of the idea of marriage have always held that the institution exists primarily for the rearing of children. If the marriage ideal consists of a husband and wife raising children together, anything less is a degraded version of the ideal.
Unless adultery or abuse is occuring within the marriage, what needs to be considered is how an intact marriage affects the ultimate potentiality of the children reared within the family. If you say "plenty of good people have been raised in non-intact familes," I can ask "but how much better would these people be if their parents had remained together?" And if you say "plenty of stinkers have been raised in intact families," I can ask "but how much worse would these people have been had their parents' marriages ended in divorce?"
I suppose, if your notion of "essentiality" merely encompasses "that which might lead to a positive result," the notion of intact families is neither here nor there. But if the idea of the essentiality of intact marriages encompasses what is best (and not merely adequate, or merely better than some other arrangement) for the child within any traditional standard, intact marriages are essential for children. One need look no further than the inner city of your nearest metropolis for proof.
I would agree with this if we were talking about a business partnership instead of a marriage. If you start at the notion that you want to avoid a divorce at all costs for religious reasons, then my post makes more sense. I know that the prevailing response is that she will just walk all over him and take advantage of him, but if he really wants to fix his marriage and make up for mistakes that he has made, making himself this vulnerable will help to convince her that he is truly committed to the relationship, which will in turn, hopefully make her more willing to work at saving the marriage. If he adopts the quid pro quo approach that you implicity suggest, she will probably file for divorce.
Is there a point to your derision?
Move to a blue state, they need people like you to help them with the next vote.
This thread is a moron magnet.
Max, you're right on. I don't think that Chunga has a full grasp of the seriesness of this here situation!
Thanks. I was confused.
I think this thread is theraputic for some people!
I got so pissed it forced me I decided to look for some strange.
It all depends on if he has a well-developed "wife ear" or not.
Wow...you posted a real pic, not one of the fake ones!
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