Aarrrrggghhhhhhh!!!!!!! I am SO mad! this same foster mom did it again. She had arranged for another foster parent to keep 2 of my girls for 3 days over Thanksgiving. Then after she dumped the other 2 kids back on me to do something with in the middle of the Thanksgiving break, she asked these other foster parents if they would keep these other two through the weekend because she was sick. The other foster mom called me tonight and said that they had gone out and when they got back there was a message on their answering machine, which the kids heard, that she couldn't handle it and wasn't going to come back and get them. I have a feeling that she is about to get shut down as a foster home....and she should! I know I won't ever place another kid there. These kids have enough problems without foster parents dumping them like unwanted puppies or something!
Libby your gonna need valium soon!! This foster Mom that your describing should be struck off the list. She's more harmful than helpful!! Appears to me that she's more concerned about how SHE feels and not about what her actions are doing to the kids. Cripes, suggest to your office management that they give her the boot or if you can make that decision, drop her and tell her why!! Years ago, David and I took in some troubled teens. First we took a couple of pregnant girls in through a group called "Birth Right". We saw them through their pregnancies and deliveries and the girl and the baby could stay with us for months if she chose to. The first girl broke my heart. She had the most beautiful little baby boy, who I watched be born in the case room. She named him Justin. I loved that baby. I wanted so much for her to stay longer as she had changed dramatically through the months she stayed with us and went to church etc. BUT she had had a relationship BEFORE she came to us, with an absolute criminal. He was wanted in 4 Provinces on outstanding warrants. I cried when she left with him. We heard from her only once after she left. Then we took in a couple of troubled teenage boys for a time. One did really well, graduated, got a job and soon had his own place and car. We talked to him fairly often. The other boy, left in the middle of the night, taking my VCR with him. He soon was in trouble with the Law. Then we took in a girl who had a Northern B.C. Indian mother and a german father. She was considered a Status Indian and got a lot of perks courtesy of us taxpayers. She had a son who was already 6.We enrolled him in school and within a month he was doing great. She was a beautiful girl but had an alcohol problem. She was actually in Hairdressing School with Marlise and Marlise brought her home. Annette and her son, Justin (yes another Justin) stayed with us for over a year. Justin just blossomed and Annette did well except for the odd weekend binge. She eventually decided to move back up North. Her we keep in touch with. We didn't take money from anyone with our charges. We did this as unto the Lord. We occasionally get a Xmas card or phone call from Annette. We didn't want her to leave either but she has done okay as far as we know. Then we took in a Vietnames boat couple. THAT was an experience. They lived with us for a year.Our Church paid for them to have their teeth fixed, get dewormed and other medical needs. These two had lived in a camp in Kuala Lampur until they could get to Canada. The conditions of that camp were undescribable. They then got jobs and their own place. Ended up moving to Vancouver where Trung became an Orthodontist and Lin became a Licensed Practical Nurse. They had a little girl but didn't keep in touch very long except to ask if we would take in her Sister so she could come to the Country. We said No. We were tired by this time and my own kids were needing a little more attention!! It's both a wonderful and demanding committment all at the same time. Sorry for the book!! LOL