[Wneighbor]

See... it's right... Sonya has been with you through *everything* in your life. I dunno. For you that just *sounds* right! :-)

Because you have determined that you want a fun wedding for all involved it will be that way. IMO - it is the formal stuff or the rigidness of some wanting things perfect that make the guests uncomfortable. You are not of that mind so I don't think the choices you'd make - no matter what - would be *not* fun.

Most people just don't *enjoy* the ceremonial formality of stuff. Can't see that happening here! :-D

[HairOfTheDog]

It will be fun!

I am trying to keep a balance between underplanning it as if it isn't important, and overplanning it so it becomes more about the details than the wedding.

It is important to get married. Matching stationary and table decorations and corsages aren't. Not for me.