Conservatives haven't surrendered to the left on the culture wars - they've joined the opposition. Not directly...sure, Hollyweird can be awful. Taking a knee during the National Anthem is bad. But surrendering your children to public schools is is collaboration.
This is splinter and beam type of stuff. People need to clean up their own backyard before tackling the town park. But it's way easier to criticize the municipal workers.
I know of many people who think they are conservative, but they fully support feminism, homosexuality, and other progressive social issues. Some of the worst are fathers who want their daughters grow up like men, “strong”, independent, career oriented, etc.. Homosexual “marriage”? They’re OK with that, too. What other people do? Not their concern so long as it doesn’t directly affect them…until it does.
But you’re right. I long ago learned there’s only one person in the world who I can control. Myself! Since then, I have tried to be a responsible, God-fearing, law abiding member of society. It’s not hypocritical to try and help others avoid making mistakes that we made. It’s only hypocritical if we continue to do the things we tell them not to do.