[Newbomb Turk]

I was married exactly 20 years. Although I was happy, and evidently delusional, I can't see any reason I would do it again.

I have worked out hard all my life to stay in shape, managed my financial life and have a house and a retirement plan.

The available women my age are mostly fat, look like men. None have a retirement plan or any plan on getting one.

What would be the possible upside ?

[Governor Dinwiddie]

" available women my age are mostly fat, look like men."

Once they get the mannish short "sensible" haircut, permed into plastic, you know it's all over.

[Diana in Wisconsin]

“What would be the possible upside?”

Exactly. I truly thought I was going to be on my own from 50 on. I was MORE than ready for that. I was/am as organized as YOU are. I told Beau, ‘You’d better hurry up because a woman in good health, who can cook and clean and grow food and raise animals, with land, NO DEBT and a retirement account is NOT going to last long on the open market!’ LOL! (And it STILL took him 5 YEARS to convince me I should sell my farm and throw in with him!)

You are doing the smart thing...though make sure you have a circle of TRUSTED friends and family around you. You can’t go it totally alone; no one should. ;)

And, um...Love sneaks up on us when we least expect it; don’t rule that out! Please PING me if you DO find, ‘The One.’ I would LOVE to dance at your wedding...if there is one, LOL!

I wish people would quit bugging me about getting married all the time. Yeesh! Do I ask THEM personal things like:

‘When are you going to lose weight?’ ‘When are YOU going to divorce the loser YOU’RE married to?’ ‘Why can’t you hold a job?’ ‘Why DO you live in the city, have a dozen kids and how can you AFFORD that these days?’ ‘Why did you just buy a McMansion that you can ill afford? In twenty words, WHO are you trying to impress, and WHY?’

Seriously, MYOB! You know who DOESN’T bug me? My 80 year old, uber-religious Mother! (She’s got a TOTAL crush on Beau. But, who doesn’t?)

Boy, I guess this IS a sore spot for me! Thanks for letting me unload! :)

[cherry]

." None have a retirement plan or any plan on getting one."

ah....the important things....

[caww]

I also was married 29 yrs.....and have chosen not to remarry.
I haven't discovered as yet why I would reconsider.

I worked out hard all my life...have a great figure, manage my finances, have a sweet apartment so i don't have to contend with maintenance etc. a home brings with it.

The available men in my age category are mostly fat and look like left overs from the dinosaur age......basic manners seem to be a thing of the past.

So why would I see an upside to marrying?