Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?
If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.
Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.
2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...
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Hahaha...that is true. If she says that, I have to accept I probably am being a jerk!
She also says, when she gives me “The Look”, that: “You have to sleep sometime.”
Very calmly (shudder)
I finally did end it. Dreams die hard, don’t they? I’m broke and living on SSI on 5 acres and in an old abandoned trailer that I remodeled into a pretty decent place. But I’m a far happier man.
And the kids?
PING!
That reminds me of a quote I once heard: “No matter how smoking hot your new girlfriend is somewhere out there there’s a guy who’s sick of her sh!t.”
Narcissism seems to be present in one party in each marriage that fails. It’s scary. And the injustice is when it happens the man is guilty in family court until proven innocent. We don’t have a chance. I feel complete despair into the advantage the women have unjustly in family court.
Glad you are a survivor though! Physical injuries would heal faster
No one can continue to abuse you without your permission.
Make a plan to walk away. Then walk away.
The result was that she kicked ME out. This was good. As a Christian I don’t believe in divorce but am told to allow the non-believer to leave.
Indeed.
“You lazy jackass! You don’t do anything! You won’t do anything I ask you to!”
Now, who is that addressed to, and whose exit would cause everything to come crashing down? (vs whose exit would be regarded with a sigh of relief?)
Same here but with mine add bipolar. Bad news.
Like the saying goes, “Divorce is expensive but worth every penny.”
For all the potholes we've encountered, the good has far outweighed the bad, and I'll admit I'm not the easiest guy to get along with.
Mr. D aptly summed it up with "it's all about God." Unbeknownst to me, He set me on a path nearly 45 years ago that allowed me to live a full and wonderful life, and I'm not ready to quit just yet.
Best wishes to you.
Right. She moved to extraterrestrial radio - Sirius XM Radio
The same bullet points apply to men who behave this way. It is a list of traits of malignant narcissism. Both sexes can and do contain offenders.
There is also an element of projection where the wife accuses the husband of the very behaviors she engages in.
Interestingly, it is because my parents didn’t fight (and neither did the parents of my current wife). However, hers did, and now she does, with whatever boyfriend she has. I get this information from my daughters, who volunteer it.
We were just a bad mix and my Christian beliefs and respect for my three daughters is what kept it together, and would have to this day, had she not pulled the plug on it.
When our pastor counselled us and he found out we had been celebant for over a year, he said, very carefully, that “refusing sex is a form of sex abuse.” She was done with him.
Bingo.
Except for the first time it is always consensual. You stuck around for it.
Beware of the girl with a sad, sad story. "Oh my daddy abandon us and so I think all men are bad but you are different. You can prove to me that men are not bad."
Good but weak men fall into this trap and they are constantly trying to "prove" that they are not like daddy by sticking around.
Then 30 years later they wonder what happened to their life.
You raise a good point. Men tend to be more direct in their angry response (point a gun at you, punch you in the nose, etc.).
Whereas women tend towards the passive-aggressive, knife-in-the-back sabotage method. As vicious as they are using it on men, they can be even worse using this one on other women they don’t like.
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