Posted on 07/17/2015 12:41:42 PM PDT by rightistight
In a disturbing piece published in NY Mag, Michael Sonmore said that he's okay with his wife having sex with random men because he's a feminist.
The article is titled, "What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism" and details Sonmore's "open" relationship with his wife.
It begins with this paragraph (emphasis mine): "As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist."
Sonmore then writes about a realization he had: "It wasn’t until my wife mentioned one evening that she’d kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife [expletive] only me."
According to Sonmore, he realized not letting his wife sleep with other men was part of the Patriarchy: "She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control."
He continues, "We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap."
Sickeningly, Sonmore writes, "The point is that it should be women who choose, not men — even the men they’re married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap."
Then he explains when he became a feminist: "When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist."
The penetrating truth of Ephesians 4:18-19 kept ringing in my mind as I read this piece.
One particular quote within this piece says it all. “she was embracing herself.” One of the reasons why this world is as depraved as it is, is because it’s quick to entertain and chase whatever promises to “entertain” the selfish, flesh nature. It first becomes an idea, then an attitude of “I’ll try anything at least once” and then goes on from there into action, maybe habit, and so forth. Meanwhile, as all of these dynamics of over indulgence, spoildness, and an “anything goes” mentality progressively strengthen, soul strengthening qualities become “malnourished” placing the decadent individual in a trap for which lust and carnal feeling overpower reason, discretion, and faithfulness.
This is an adolescent mentality, and we are seeing these adolescent mentalities grow even in older generations that should know better, and should be teaching the next generation the qualities and values they need to survive, thrive, and carry the next generation forward. With each day, I cannot, for the life of me, understand how my generation is going to carry the next generation forward, let alone carry society forward into the next era.
We need to guard our hearts and minds, because if we don’t we become reckless, careless, and feckless, “opening our minds” to the degree that it filters out no contaminants, which can easily become the cause of our downfall.
My wife should give me a swift kick where it hurts, plus refuse with me until I got a good STD testing session if I cheated on her, it’s that simple.
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