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I’m not his mother—he lives with her, I’m his father.

And he’s going on 17 soon.

He’s pretty much from observation (divorce #1, my likely divorce #2) come to a M.G.T.O.W (Men Going Their Own Way) point of view. I’m merely trying to reinforce what he already knows.

He has no desire to be in my position: married to a 2nd wife with 2 kids who is going to move on to greener passages. This country favors wives whoring it up (like the current wife, who has cheated I-can’t-remember-how-many times—I should use a spreadsheet), divorcing, getting child support (in reality, tax free alimony), then getting a new man.

The studies that say that both spouses are worse off after a divorce... not true if the woman remarries or gets a sugar daddy and gets bucket loads of “child support” from the ex- sucker.

I’m sending in my passport renewal this week, with the end goal of possibly joining up with the Kurds to fight against ISIS, so that if the wife leaves, I can vote with my feet against the system.

Should the current “wife” decide to break up the family for greener pastures, I will take a few thousand in cash with me, body armor & carrier, boots, Russian scopes, etc, and leave nothing behind but debt. I figure I’ll fight for a few months, kill some ISIS terrorists, then eventually get killed.

First of all, I honor and salute you for your plan to fight those filthy, demonic savages. But for the love of all that’s holy, please don’t go into it with a fatalistic, what-do-I-have-to-live-for mindset. You truly never know what God has in store for you.

I don’t dispute that the courts and society in general are set up to favor women. But family behavior patterns can be broken.

My husband grew up in a broken home. After his parents’ divorce when he was eleven years old, his mother married a man who was abusive-—mainly verbal, but occasionally physical-—to husband and his siblings. His childhood was not an easy one.

The father, for some unfathomable decision, considered himself divorced from his children as well as their mother. He has rebuffed efforts by his kids to reconcile.

My husband’s family is filled with divorce-—in fact, the only couple to stay together was his grandparents. And us.

He didn’t let what he witnessed sour him on marriage, but he did know that he would do it once, and do it right...which dovetails exactly with my own point of view. We’ve been together for twenty years, and married for eighteen. Divorce is not an option for us.

There ARE good women out there (and good men).