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Women Who Humiliate Their Husbands
Had Enough Therapy? ^ | 2-1-2015 | Stuart Schneiderman

Posted on 02/02/2015 4:42:01 AM PST by servo1969

Somehow or other the word “feminism” never enters these articles, but where do you imagine that the modern habit of demeaning, degrading and ridiculing men comes from?

We are not talking about something that occurs behind closed doors. Being contemptuous of men, making them look like fools has become the new, modern way for women to attack men.

One might say that the assaults men commit against women are far more serious. One would probably be right. And yet, life is a two-way street and the feminist habit of assaulting men with derisive remarks must produce a hostile cultural environment.

To the feminist mindset men are chronically misogynist. Women who mock said men are merely defending themselves.

The men who are subjected to this form of emotional abuse—why do we not consider it abuse when it is inflicted by a woman on a man?—sometimes lash out in anger. Sometimes, they run out and cheat. Often, they simply pack up and leave.

All things considered, no man can lash out at a woman, physically or verbally. The culture is so hypersensitive to the incidence of male-on-female violence that the least hostile remark by a man will be grounds for indictment.

Since men are no longer allowed to get angry, more and more of them leave.

If you are asking yourselves where America’s absent fathers are, and if you note that a large number of children grow up without a father in the home, you might consider the off chance that some of these emotionally abusive wives have driven their husbands off.

And yet, ironically, these wives are ridiculing their husbands for not being very good… housewives.

It’s the modern feminist’s way of keeping her husband out of the kitchen. If you were confused by feminism before…

Aside from the fact that feminism has made it open season on men, these forms of emotional abuse are ways for women to validate the wonderful work they do in the home.

They are saying that their work is so difficult that no man can do it well.

Call it self-affirmation at someone else’s expense.

Heaven forfend, but enterprising young single women have occasionally tried to exploit the situation. One shudders to think it but some young women are not above poaching other women’s husbands. If they are as clever as I think they are, they do not do it by practicing the lessons they read in Cosmo and they do not do it by exposing a little more cleavage or hiking up their skirts a couple of extra inches.

The key to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pride.

Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.

Game. Set. Match.

Why has this topic reared its head?

It seems that Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler sent a text to his wife, one Kristin Cavallari in which he bemoaned his difficulties taking care of their children in her absence.

Apparently, this wealthy young celebrity couple never heard of Nannies.

Cavallari shared Cutler’s text with the world via Instagram. Ashley McGuire of the New York Post then reported it.

How much do you want to bet that Cutler risks being seriously mocked in the locker room once the new season arrives? How will this little problem affect his ability to lead his team’s offense? How many women will be happy to console the dejected QB?

The problem will not be that Cutler was overwhelmed by young children, but that he allowed his wife to make him look like a fool in public.

McGuire points out that it has become acceptable for women to make a mockery of their husbands:

It’s somehow become culturally acceptable for wives to mock their husbands, and this is bad.

Men don’t like to be mocked. Neither do women, but I rarely see a husband mock his wife, especially when it comes to being a mother. It’s a sort of sacrosanct territory that a man knows better than to stomp on.

And yet I see women mock their husbands all the time. And I don’t mean tease. I mean derisively mock and shame, to their face and behind their back.

Some women will say here—I know it because I hear it all the time—that they limit their derision to lunch with their girlfriends. Not only is this improbable but women are far less successful at hiding their contempt than they think. If a woman feels it and thinks it, her husband knows. It’s like the man who is cheating on his wife but who insists that she does not know. Don't bet your marriage on her ignorance.

McGuire remarks that one consequence of this new cultural attitude is that more and more children are being brought up without fathers. This despite the fact that some men put up with the abuse and stay in their marriages, regardless.

McGuire explains:

I’m not the first and I certainly won’t be the last person to say that there is a “fatherhood crisis” in America. A third of American children are now growing up without their dad in the home.

And while there are promising signs that those fathers that do stay with their children are becoming more involved in their lives or at least want to be, this is still an area that needs improvement in American society.

But I can tell you one way that women can ensure that men won’t help more with their kids: Mocking them when they falter. Posting their “please help” moment of desperation for all to see.

To sustain her argument McGuire linked to an article from the Daily Mail. The article, by Frances Childs, dates to 2011. It shows that the problem McGuire identified had previously been identified.

As Childs described it:

Sophie pours another glass of wine. Shaking her head, she sighs heavily. ‘He’s such an idiot. I can’t leave him alone for five seconds. God knows what sort of mess I’ll get home to tonight.’

We all nod sympathetically. ‘Mine practically blew the microwave up last time I ventured out for the evening. He’s so useless,’ says Lisa, pulling a face.

She isn’t talking about her monosyllabic teenage son — she’d never be so rude about him. In fact, although the lad has been twice suspended from school and rarely logs off his incessant computer gaming, Lisa never ceases to boast about his incredible talents and intellect. It’s her husband of 17 years she’s roundly and publicly criticising.

Childs continued:

Our husbands’ sins range from never emptying the dishwasher to being emotional retards who are criminally incompetent at childcare and let our homes go to rack and ruin through lack of interest in DIY.

And I know we are far from alone. Get any group of women together and you can be sure they’ll talk about their husbands — and it will rarely be complimentary.

It’s become so commonplace to run down our spouses that Sally Bercow, publicity-mad wife of the Speaker of the Commons, felt totally at ease painting her husband John as a henpecked domestic drudge on national television.

Gleefully informing her housemates on the trash TV programme Big Brother that she makes John mop the kitchen floor and empty the dishwasher while she has a cup of tea, she appeared to think that belittling her spouse somehow made her look interesting.

I can’t in a million years imagine men talking about us with such vindictive nastiness. But belittling your husband has become not just acceptable but even de rigueur. And what’s worse, if you don’t participate in husband-bashing, you’re often cold-shouldered; it’s as if you’re a disappointment to the sisterhood, a sad little wifey.

The worst part, Childs avers, is that women have gotten into the habit of demeaning their husbands in front of their children:

More than once, I’ve seen mothers and children in cahoots, exchanging raised eyebrows over yet another ‘job’ that Daddy hasn’t done. In sharing tales about men’s incompetence, women are coming dangerously close to normalising a corrosive and lasting disrespect for fathers that can only have devastating consequences.

Research carried out by the University of Kent last year demonstrated that by the age of eight boys believed girls were better behaved and more successful than they were. Surely these negative opinions of their gender are down to boys growing up in a culture that routinely derides and ridicules masculinity.

As we know, slut-shaming is a terrible, terrible problem. Shaming one's husband, no problem at all.

Another victory for feminism!


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To: C. Edmund Wright

Interesting article. Sort of validates what happens to the black male. That “angry black woman” thing is what drives them off.


21 posted on 02/02/2015 5:24:29 AM PST by EQAndyBuzz (Islam is the military wing of the Communist party.)
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To: AppyPappy

I like the t-shirt: Why get married? Just find a nasty hag and buy her a house...

(nearing 20 years of marriage myself)


22 posted on 02/02/2015 5:28:02 AM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: servo1969

so true, contempt is a sure sign it’s over. The second I see it pop up in someone elses relationship, I know it’s over.


23 posted on 02/02/2015 5:29:18 AM PST by TexasFreeper2009 (Obama lied .. the economy died.)
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To: Junk Silver

In my area Anglo guys pair up nicely with newcomers from south/Central America; the former have a traditional mate who values children, while the latter aren’t treated as burros.

Works out well, and there is no shortage of those women; if you want an American girl you can go a bar and watch all the aging umarried childless man-haters drink themselves into stupors, passed around between the divorced American guys hanging out there.

I’m horrible...


24 posted on 02/02/2015 5:33:53 AM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: Junk Silver

“When’s the last time we saw a competent, confident husband/father portrayed in a TV sit-com”

Tim Allen does pretty good in Last Man Standing. And he is very conservative in the show.


25 posted on 02/02/2015 5:36:52 AM PST by HereInTheHeartland (Pants up; don't loot)
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To: servo1969

I’m 51 and have seen this phenomenon three times in my life. In each case, the man was a good husband and father, but a wimp who married the first girl he dated (practically). In each case, a divorce ensued to the relief of his family and friends - and remarried, very happily...and, in each case, the shrew women fell completely to pieces. Each ‘wimp’ eventually grew a pair!


26 posted on 02/02/2015 5:38:48 AM PST by LittleBillyInfidel (This tagline has been formatted to fit the screen. Some content has been edited.)
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To: DallasGal

Modern feminism is not about equality; It’s a female supremacy movement.

Feminists do not wish to be regarded as inherently equal with men; They wish to be regarded as inherently better than men.


27 posted on 02/02/2015 5:41:17 AM PST by servo1969
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To: IronJack

I grew up in a home with lots of brothers, so we were accustomed early on to taking care of ourselves in terms of cooking, laundry, etc.. I think everyone young man should learn those things; he’ll be less likely to marry thinking he’s swapping those chores from his mother to his new wife. If he doesn’t want a family, then he’s less likely to marry at all (and there is no problem with that).

If men were everything the man-hating TV producers seem to think they should be, they would have no problem finding an adoring wife; as it is now, plenty of men “trade up” in spouses when the original model acts like the TV commercial women...


28 posted on 02/02/2015 5:43:17 AM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: IronJack

I was shocked at the number of commercials during the Superbowl that shows men being good fathers.


29 posted on 02/02/2015 5:43:48 AM PST by driftdiver (I could eat it raw, but why do that when I have a fire.)
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To: C. Edmund Wright

After you get married and find yourself standing in a department store in the women’s section holding your wife’s purse you pretty much know what you’re in for.


30 posted on 02/02/2015 5:45:39 AM PST by Stevenc131
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To: Stevenc131

I have found that in life you get what you accept. The men I know have no problem with women. We love them and respect them....but we do not take any sh1t from them. Pretty simple.


31 posted on 02/02/2015 5:55:01 AM PST by Fred911 (YOU GET WHAT YOU ACCEPT)
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To: servo1969

The nagging, belittling, controlling woman was around long before feminism. Read some Anthony Trollope novels from the 1800s and you’ll find her all over the place.


32 posted on 02/02/2015 5:57:27 AM PST by A_perfect_lady
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To: servo1969
Our husbands’ sins range from never emptying the dishwasher to being emotional retards who are criminally incompetent at childcare and let our homes go to rack and ruin through lack of interest in DIY

I was raised - and, largely in my current household as well - to believe that "If you don't like the way I take care of something, then you can do it your dammed self."

With exceptions, of course. And always, polite ones. For instance, Mrs WBill says, "I would appreciate it, WBill, if you would pick the laundry up and put it in the basket, rather than leaving it in a pile on the floor for me to trip on." Problem solved, and it's much easier than her stewing over it and whining to her girlfriends: "MY HUSBAND just is SO CLUELESS about the laundry. He NEVER etc etc etc". That won't ever address the issue, unless I'm sitting there at the table, or one of the girlfriends calls to let me know. :-)

Respect. That's all it is.

33 posted on 02/02/2015 5:58:57 AM PST by wbill
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To: Stevenc131

If you act up in that scenario (especially since they’ve removed the “chump chairs” for the men) then your wife eventually stops insisting you come.

It has been years since I’ve been in that situtation; it seemed to taper off when the kids came along because my disciplining of them in stores drove my wife nuts.


34 posted on 02/02/2015 5:59:14 AM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: C. Edmund Wright
In watching the Super Bowl last night, there were a couple of commercials that put Dads in a really good light. One was for Toyota.

Given the usual "Dopey White Dad" commercials, they stuck out like a sore thumb. Which is likely why the advertisers did them.

Hopefully, it's a theme that will catch on. And, please note that I don't work for Toyota, or own stock in them. The commercial just caught my attention.

35 posted on 02/02/2015 6:09:15 AM PST by wbill
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To: servo1969

I’ve advised my oldest son that there is only one woman that will every really love him: his mother, and that most women don’t love a MAN, they love what a man can DO for them (until they divorce them).

Another way I put it is, if there was a door and someone told you there was a 50% chance of getting free chocolate cake on the other side, and a 50% chance someone would hit you in the face with a baseball bat, would you try to go through that door?

Divorce being around 50%...


36 posted on 02/02/2015 6:09:27 AM PST by baltimorepoet
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To: C. Edmund Wright
yep, and even on NCIS - who’s the boss? Either a woman or the black guy? Who is the only character in the series to have a normal family? The black guy.

If you based your observation on American TV, you'd conclude that ninety percent of the judges in the justice system are black, as well as half of the medical staff at all our hospitals.

37 posted on 02/02/2015 6:10:22 AM PST by Rummyfan
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To: driftdiver

See my post #35. GMTA. :-)


38 posted on 02/02/2015 6:10:28 AM PST by wbill
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To: servo1969

I don’t want my husband to do dishes, laundry or house chores. I don’t go to his job and start getting all in it. I don’t want him all in mine. The house is my job, including the lawn.

There’s no talk or fuss about this and no nasty comments being made by either of us. It works for us.


39 posted on 02/02/2015 6:10:47 AM PST by Irenic (The pencil sharpener and Elmer's glue is put away-- we've lost the red wheelbarrow)
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To: Flick Lives

Except that the 50% divorce rate is a lie promoted by the Left to destroy marriage In the eyes of the public. Look it up. You cannot rely on government or university sponsored studies for non-political information.


40 posted on 02/02/2015 6:12:33 AM PST by txrefugee
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