Posted on 10/02/2014 2:47:17 PM PDT by NYer
Wrongful Birth.
It is a legal term rooted in deep narcissism and dressed in the clothing of contract law. Translated, it means some parent didn’t get what they hoped for, or paid for when their child was born. Somebody screwed up and the wrong product was delivered. It’s a form of business and/or medical malpractice.
Wrongful Birth.
The very words reveal the ugly side of human nature, the neurotic side of the human psyche where human fear meets with human failure, and growth becomes a forced issue, and someone has to pay a price for it.
Consider the white lesbian couple in Ohio who ordered sperm from a sperm bank, expecting sperm from a donor with a certain genetic (Caucasian) and personal profile. What they were sent was sperm from a black man, and what resulted was a mixed race baby. Read the story here.
It’s a truly tragic story, and heartbreaking that a child should be born into such poverty of spirit, especially to a lesbian mother who should have learned a thing or two about oppression and survival. Consider the following quotes from the story in Mail Online.
Jennifer Cramblett, 36, claims the mistake has caused her stress and anguish because her family is racist and she lives in a small, all-white Uniontown in northeast Ohio…
Ms Cramblett [sic] she has ‘limited cultural competency relative to African-Americans’ and worries that her daughter Payton will not be accepted in her hometown of Uniontown.
‘Jennifer lives each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future,’ according to the lawsuit.
Is it understandable that a woman coming from a family she labels “racist” would also claim to have “limited cultural competency” to raise a mixed race child?
No, it isn’t.
In labeling her family as racist, Ms. Cramblett identifies herself as somehow above it all. That is the necessary precondition for self-education in gaining cultural competence in the raising of her mixed race child. But that, too, begs the question. Why does this child need to be singled out as something other? How, exactly, should she be raised compared to potential future siblings who are white? Is that not itself racist? And then there is the matter of living, “each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future.”
Do these lesbians see the world so categorically that they actually think that living, “each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future,” is not something every single parent on the planet experiences?
There’s more:
Even simple tasks have become more complicated because Payton is mixed-race, the lawsuit says.
‘Payton has hair typical of an African American girl. To get a decent cut, Jennifer must travel to a black neighborhood, far from where she lives, where she is obviously different in appearance, and not overtly welcome,’ according to the lawsuit.
Again, note the objectification of blacks by this mother. What does it take beyond a universal smile and common courtesy for people of different ethnicities to develop warm and cordial relationships? So what is this woman getting at?
On the one hand, she doesn’t feel culturally competent, then castigates an entire community of color when she brings the child to a hairdresser who can do the child’s hair some justice. And as for traveling out of one’s way? Heterosexuals do it all the time for their children. It comes with being a parent. God forbid she should turn it into a quality mommy-daughter day out.
The article ends with the mother saying that in a few years when her daughter begins school, she may be the only black child in her class in her small, rural town, and this worries her. An indictment of the entire community. But how small-minded can the community be if she and her lesbian partner live there?
For a mother so ostensibly concerned with her daughter being picked on by racist family, tortured by racist classmates and neighbors, failed culturally by her mother, she has chosen to label the little girl a mistake, a wrongful birth, a human who never should have been. All because of a little extra melanin and some different hair.
For all their talk of tolerance, and openness, and inclusivity, and compassion, it isn’t unreasonable to expect gays and lesbians to put their money where their collective mouth is. One would expect a lesbian couple, of all people, to abhor the notion of “wrongful birth,” claiming a genetic etiology for their own orientation as they do.
Pity the child born to such poverty and bigotry.
Moral absolutes, ping!
So now people don’t have the right to what type of child they can have and to expect the other party to live up to a valid contract? Supposed racism and her sexual preference aside, did she receive what she ordered and contracted for? If not, she has every right to sue the other party, and opinion columnists have no business telling her otherwise.
This author has clearly led a sheltered life. The real world is somewhat different.
Poor child. Even very young children can usually sense when they are not wanted and it has such a negative impact on their emotions and self-worth.
A lesbian couple pretending to be parents. An unnatural reproductive act. The soft bigotry of low expectations against the child. Buyers remorse.
The child is responsible for none of this.
These people have no idea what they've done morally in an attempt to convince themselves they're normal. Clueless.
1. making babies in unnatural ways is morally wrong. We don’t need the Bible to tell us this.
2. passing laws can not turn something wrong into something right.
3. there are plenty of babies up for adoption. Adopt instead.
4. These people are trying to fool themselves into thinking that they had a baby the normal way when they use a sperm donor.
Where is her sense of diversity?
If it’s her daughter then it shouldn’t matter. My daughter is mixed race and I don’t give a rat’s dingleberries one way or the other. She’s my daughter. I hold her to the exact same standard as I hold any other person. I go months without it ever even crossing my mind that she’s not the same color as me. And I’m personally getting sick and tired of skin color being a big deal. I have begun refusing to fill out questionnaires which ask my race. I write on it that I don’t fill out bigoted questionnaires that want to know what color my skin is.
If you try to play God, don’t be surprised that you ain’t too good at it.
Celebrate diversity and all the colors of the rainbow !
So true.
Maybe they should give the child up for adoption by a good Christian family that will unconditionally love the child. We have several mixed race children in our extended family and they are gifts from God.
Her carefully crafted story, written with the help of a cynical attorney, cleverly conceals the fact that the carpet eater is racist, and rejects the baby that she carried.
Put the poor child up for adoption and let her be adopted by a loving non-lesbian, non-gay, heterosexual couple.
All children are gifts from God.
Posting of the day.
The baby was beautiful. What a story she has to tell.
Children are NOT commodities!
Excellent, excellent analysis of the situation! This is what happens when you deviate from natural law.
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