Most of those arguments are disingenuous.
We’re already in a homeschool friendly state with a fair cost of living.
What would you have done if your wife would not have retired? If your spouse wouldn’t commit to homeschool, would you have divorced her?
What would you have done if your wife would not accept a lower standard of living to allow you or her to homeschool? Would you have divorced her?
To argue that you made a wise choice by marrying someone who would commit to homeschooling is also disingenuous, so I don’t want to see that response. You cannot predict what your spouse will do no matter what has been agreed upon in the beginning.
We made those decisions before we had kids, and she followed through on them. I don’t think I would have divorced her if she had reneged, but I wouldn’t be very happy about it.
Sounds to me like your issue is your spouse.
Also, I don’t see how my “arguments” are disingenuous. I simply outlined what we did to make it work as an illustration that it can be done - but everyone has to be on board with the decision.