A high school teacher told me that the primary concern of almost every student is that they survive the day. High school is as bad as prison. (Lockdown...now where do you think they got THAT word?)
Children have attention deficit in school because they have a deficit of attention at home. In my case I was unable to focus because I was trying to get from my classmates the attention and affection that I could never get from my father. Students could subconsciously perceive that and they didn’t like it. So they ignored me which made me try even harder. The trauma of neglect and rejection shatters the psyche so that one becomes mentally and emotionally disoriented and unable to do normal things like fall asleep at night or pay attention in class. Another word for it is being a spaz. Attention deficit = deficit of attention. Ritalin turned me into a zombie which my father was okay with. But it made me withdrawn and even more dysfunctional. When I started taking desipramine or imipramine I went from one semester as a D and F student with an F in conduct to the honor roll. As I understand it, the stimulant/antidepressant promotes transmission between the two hemispheres of the brain. Something better than doping your kids, though, is for fathers to take full responsibility for the consequences of their love for pleasure. Welcome your offspring into the world. Take an interest in their talents and passions. Show them how those two work together to form the purpose of their life. Be a mentor, not just a reluctant bread winner who escapes from your wife and children with your job and Monday night football.
A few years ago I sent my homeschooled son to an early morning high school class.
He would bus in and I would pick him up about 80 min later.
First two weeks that he was sitting out front waiting for me he said every adult in the building came out to ask him what he was doing outside.
Why do they do that mom, he asked.
They want to make sure you’re not an escapee, I said.
He agreed.
I agree that some high school students struggle to survive all day in school, lol some even consider it’s like prison. He/she feels defeated and stupid when they can’t do a simple thing, which is done easily by their friends. Why is it happening? Is it because WE as parents rely on outsiders to do what are rightly parental tasks? Teaching starts in the womb, and continues at super rates until they reach around 7, their brains are so hungry for and to absorb information their abilities are super human, literally. Take responsibility for your child’s future; give them the start they need to excel in life links.
Daniel P. Warren