Been married 13 years and have worn a ring since day one. I knew she wanted me to going in and was okay with it. I agree with the shrink, the only reason not to wear one is to be able to claim you’re single. The only reason you would want to do that is to cheat on your wife. I’m not going to do that. Part of the reason I was able to marry such a wonderful woman is her first husband cheated on her.
And YOU are a jerk.
Hum?
When my husband and I got married, almost 40 years now, people thought it was a really big deal he was wearing a wedding ring, even the newspaper announcement said “double ring ceremony”.
I know people that are machinists that do not wear rings because they say its dangerous.
Not sure its a big deal, except between the married couple.
If you are married, be married. If you aren't, be careful or celibate.
/johnny
The reason why people don’t see the ring as important, like they used to, is because they don’t see the marriage promises as important as they used to.
The only acceptable reason, in my mind, to remove the ring is either job or hobby related where injury could be the result or if you’re doing something like weight-training or martial arts or something similar.
At least in my books.
Conductivity and damage.
Its harder to get new bootie with a ring for sure and its just useless baggage anyway.
As far presenting oneself as single by not wearing the ring.. please quit projecting. I don't cheat but if I did the first thing I'd do is tell the bimbo I was married and that wasn't going to change. Who would want the hassle of not one but two lies? Plus letting the paramour think there might be a future would be stupid. I wear no jewelry.. safety. |
Ditching my wedding band would be the straightest path to the divorce court, in my house.
In my observation, people who don’t care one way or the other about their wedding bands, are also the type where the wife keeps her maiden name, or hyphenates her last name. Maybe she even goes by ‘Ms’ instead of Mrs. In other words, they’ve got a ‘progressive’ marriage.
Phhhhttt....
Hi Hon!
A lot of the guys who work on oil rigs don’t wear rings (mash one and lose a finger while someone is trying to cut the ring off). I’m an exception, but I’m outrageously careful about pinch points and electricity, too.
There are some occupations which make it dangerous to wear a ring or any type of jewelery. Electricians, machinist, any kind of manufacturing. They usually ask you to remove jewelery and put it in your pocket. Although when you take your vows you should wear your ring...
What a load of BS in the article!
I learned early on not to wear rings. At 18, I was in the catapults division on an aircraft carrier. I saw a shipmate fall and slip off of the deck onto the catwalk. His ring finger caught on the deck edge and ripped his finger off.
After my Navy service, I also worked in facilities where I ran lathes and it was definitely not safe to wear any rings.
I’m sure that a certain faction of males AND females stash their rings when out “catting” around, but the majority of males who don’t wear rings do so from lessons learned to avoid injuries.
If I had a wedding ring, I’d lose it. In fact, if I had the money I spent (or that others had spent) on every ring or watch that I have lost over the years, It’d be a pretty big chunk of change.
I just don’t like anything on my hands. I take them off without even thinking about it and walk away from them. I’m just as bad with lighters and combs. Managed to lose a 40,000 yen Dunhill lighter that a gal gave me some time back.
Boy was she upset!
Work shirt, blue jeans, cowboy boots and Stetson......Ready to go.
I have never had a problem or approached more by women by not having a ring. One guy I worked with before I was married was telling me to get a ring, that I would get more women that way. I would be more "dangerous" and "forbidden fruit" to women. I could see his point. For married women wanting a fling, I could see a married man being more desirable.
So with all that said, I found this whole post interesting, because I just have ordered a ring. My employer offers a whole bunch of different gifts for a 15 year anniversary. I decided to get a wedding band looking ring. I am still in the electronics biz, and I'm guessing I won't wear it much. But I figured I'd give it a whirl. I'll find out now if I get hit on a lot with the ring.
I do believe if a man receives a ring during the wedding he should keep it on except if he is working construction or in a manufacturing shop. Rings are dangerous things to have on in an industrial setting.
After work, however, he should put it back on.
Some women concern themselves with the silliest sh**.
I wore my wedding ring for less than a year before I got tired of it and took it off for good. It started choking my finger, cutting off the circulation. That was over 25 years ago. Anyway, look what happened to Neil Armstrong.
I will have been married 20 years this August, and I COMPLETELY disagree with the psychologist.
My husband hasn’t worn his wedding band since the day we got married (although it’s not like he doesn’t know where it is). The reason he NEVER wears his wedding ring has absolutely NOTHING to do with him wanting to “appear single” and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that if he forgot to take it off before work one day he might come home missing a finger or worse... BLUE-COLLAR WORKING men CAN’T be *wearing jewelry* all the time otherwise they wouldn’t be RESPONSIBLE providers - what with risking permanent inability to do their job and winding up on disability and all... IMHO this psychologist is one of those people who sits in their ivory tower proscribing judgement on issues he knows absolutely nothing about...
Doesn’t bother me a bit, and never has that he doesn’t wear his/our ring - maybe I’m just a VERY lucky woman that can actually trust her husband??? [I’m guessing this man thinks there are NO men in the world who AREN’T always thinking with their privates...]