Read Psalm 34
If you say it is your fault...then change those things about yourself...make everyday a living amends and good things will follow. What you will get may not be what you want it to be right now, but I promise, your life will change.
I am curious - does your wife claim to be a born-again believer as well?
We obviously don't have most of the important details, and I guess we really don't need it. God's word is clear about His view of marriage. And while He did make allowances for sinful man (who would divorce anyway, with or without His allowing it), God's purpose and plan for us all is a spirit of reconciliation.
That being said, obviously a split up marriage is an indication of some sort of failure. But at this point, it may all be beyond your ability to do anything directly to put it back together. So you must rely upon our Heavenly Father to either repair the divide, or to give the comfort and peace needed. But He also, I believe, would want you to learn from whatever mistakes or decisions may have contributed to this situation.
I will be praying for you and your whole family...
Get over it. It always takes two to tango. Women up and split all the time anymore, thee’s nothing to keep them on the farm. So thank the Lord for the good times you had, and the good times to come.
You are not broken, just dented. Been through it also.
It is better on this side. Do not dwell on the what was, look forward to the what is coming. Learn from your mistakes so you can leave your baggage behind. Do not have a new relationship for at least one year. You need to become yourself, not just someone’s husband or dad. If there is to be another person in your future, God will send them otherwise learn to appreciate yourself and your freedom. I do.
It may not seem like it now, but you got the best part of the deal. Also heed the advice of those who tell you to get a good lawyer and protect your assets. Being Mr. Nice Guy will just bring you more grief. If you are the one leaving home get a legal separation first, otherwise she'll claim you abandoned her.
If this were an amicable breakup, I'd say otherwise, but that doesn't seem to be the case.
Probably best to keep a close eye on the dog.
Sorry, man. That sucks. I’m unfortunately low on advice for such a situation.
Read the Book of Job — my favorite book of the Bible, by the way — and stay strong. Job took a beating, but stood fast, and was rewarded in the end. There is a reason for everything. The night is always darkest just before the dawn.
Godspeed, good man.
SnakeDoc
HE brought you to it...HE will see you through it.
In the end, you’ll be OK.
But this is the moment, deep down in your heart of hearts that you know that O.J. Simpson did it.
The best revenge is to live well.
Prayers for you, I can sympathize...
go get “the love dare” and do it.
He was devastated. She was a minister and they were very active in church. They did everything together.
In the past two years he has had a transformation. He is out dating several women, travels alot, taken up new hobbies and is as bright and happy as could be. Of course he still has somber times but he has not just moved forward but has raced to the front.
Kind of like blues music. It is sad but it makes you happy.
Anyway, you'll have some down time but use it for introspection and think about the things that have made you happy these past few years.
Then go out and get some life!
Then, when the time comes, find yourself a good women....
...then throw the TV out the window.
(No, I'm not kidding)
Whatever you do, don’t play the hang-dog and give her everything. I’ve never met a divorced person who said, later, “I wish I had given him/her everything they wanted.” Instead, they regret not fighting for half of the house or whatever.
There’s a spiritual side to this where you must depend on God for comfort and direction, but there’s another side where you’ll have to make decisions about who gets what, parental visitation and so on. If you don’t feel you’re up to fighting for what is yours’, get an attorney who will do it for you.
I’m not sure you’re in the best position to determine, without forewarning, who did what to whom - or who caused what. Not at this point at any rate.
Without warning implies no counselling occurred, or is going to occur.
It isn’t over until the divorce papers are signed, and even then there’s ‘buyer’s remorse’ on the divorce and people end up being remarried.
Unless she’s dead, nothing is over until you’ve exhausted either your options or yourselves.
This sounds like it just happened. I’d go to a counsellor by yourself to start, and then see whether she’d be up to going sometime soon down the road.
My 2 cents at least. Keep praying is the other advice. I’d pray NOT for what you want, but for God to reveal His will and to give you the courage to carry it out.
The Golden is great news ... far less troublesome than a woman...
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Had you made a gratitude list of the 10 things you were most grateful for last week, I’m certain you’re wife would have been one of the 10. Now that she’s decided to leave, focus on the other 9 items on the list.
Look at your feet, and the floor under them often. THAT is where you are. Do everything you can to live in the present moment. Not even God can change the past, and He has not revealed the future yet. Communicate with Him often.
Find something that interests you that involves working with others. Often when I feel that my life couldn’t get any worse, I listen to, then share my experience strength and hope with others who have it FAR worse than myself.
Having Faith means never having to ask why....
See my tagline
Go be of service. WHatever it is, find a purpose. Get involved in something. Animal shelter, homeless shelter, old-folks home, etc. STAY OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Get active in your local church - one that has a lot of activities. Wednesday Bible study.
Don’t self indulge. That is what the enemy wants. In Christ we can walk thru ANYTHING. Other people will let us down. He will not.
Ask your estranged wife what you can do to help her. Do NOT have hate in your heart for her. Pray that she may find the Lord and peace and happiness. She obviously has neither at this moment. Her’s is the sad story here. She is still searching. She is the one who is being tormented.
You will come out better on the other side of this. Peace Brother.
(Also consider rescuing a companion for your Golden. The antics of multiple dogs will bring you cheer, and they will keep each other company while you are out being of service).