Female perspective:
I wouldn’t like to see that on the first date.
If he said when he asked me out, “Hey, I’ve got a coupon for such and such a place, would you like to join me and we’ll see how the food is?” or something to that effect it would be different.
Whipping a coupon out at the end of the 1st date kind of says to me that I wasn’t worth paying full price, and he’ll save that for another date.
I wouldn’t do that the first time I treated either.
Just my perspective.
I agree. It'd be a turn off. Take her on a picnic. Take her to some place half that price. But pulling out a coupon on the first date, I don't know if I could get past that and I fully appreciate frugality.
I would think there are ways to be discreet. Tell the server/maitre de/greeter, quietly that you have a coupon. And prepare before hand, wrap it around your credit card or place it among the cash.
And ... he'd be right.
You point out the essential woman's perspective. One major purpose of the date is for the woman to see how much money the guy is willing to spend in order to be with her, as a measure of how much he values her. The more money, the higher her perceived status in his eyes.
I totally agree.
“Whipping a coupon out at the end of the 1st date kind of says to me that I wasn’t worth paying full price”
Are you for sale to the high bidder?
What words would you choose to describe a woman who is for sale to the high bidder?