There’s a dating crisis ... and I’ll gain insight(s) by reading this ?
Very interesting . I knew about anorexia plaguing Orthodox Jews, but didn’t know a lot the other material mentioned here.
Let me sum this up without the liberal filter.
American women stink. OK, when I say “American women...I mean most, not all, of course”
I hate to paint with a broad brush.
American women have been confused by feminism and the media into being anything they want....except being a woman.
American women embrace work, challenges, travel, etc. American women do not embrace being a woman.
I am fortunate to travel a lot for business. I have many friends, both male and female worldwide. I have dated women worldwide.
One day, it jumped out at me. The vast majority of American women do not embrace being a woman.
Yes, they wear the clothes, they use the makeup, they do all these things......but they do not enjoy being a woman and the power that comes with it.
What a horrible loss.
Most European and South American women love being women. They know the power that they have over men and they happily embrace that. Yes, even in South America, where it is a male-dominated culture, women know their true strength.
Here in the US, women are lost. They think that if they are too strong, we will see them as bitches or if they are too weak, we will see them as June Cleaver-ish helpless women....because they have been taught to reject the natural place of women in a relationship/family.
The fact remains that a woman can be soft, feminine and still wrap a man around her finger in ways he doesn’t realize. That is a woman.
Not manipulative....but feminine.
The author lost me with “cruel taboos”. Those taboos protected a hell of a lot of people and forestalled a hell of a lot of failure, pain and blighted lives.
It’s really not all that complex. We don’t need women anymore. Want sex? Easy - it’s everywhere. Hook up, or virtual (porn) it’s as easy to come by as fast food. Without a burdensome wife and child to support the male can work less and play more. The courts are stacked against him in the event of divorce when she decides to take the children and leave him with a monthly support payment. Hell, the dirty secrete the women’s movement never understood is that marriage was always FOR the woman. So, all I have to say is “thanks.” You made your bed, now sleep in it...alone!
It used to be said that in NYC a woman was more likely to be killed in a terrorist attack than get married. Since 9/11, they’ve kind of dropped that analogy!
Too many women get a college degree then use that as a measuring stick, refusing to date working men with a technical school education, ignoring the fact that the guys are A. working B. make decent money C. abundant.
Then they wonder why there aren’t enough guys around, after women dominated the college arena to the detriment of men.
Most women want men who are smarter, richer, and taller than them.
I've long felt that urban living is incompatible with a normal family life for most people.
Feminism tells us that patriarchy is bad for women, good for men. But it’s men, not women who are abandoning the LDS church, maybe the most patriarchal of all large Christian denominations.
In the LDS church, women are actively seeking to fill traditional female roll, but there aren’t enough men to fill the traditional male roles.
I wonder how feminism would explain that.
There is a very useful comparison not being made. Orthodox Jews in NYC vs. Orthodox Jews in Israel.
In NYC, the Orthodox used to live in very closed communities, generally outside of the American cultural norm. But today their communities are very open and integrating (compared to what they were). This by itself may explain their declining marriage rate, as well as smaller families.
In Israel, many of the Orthodox live in very closed communities. Very isolationist, they have a very high marriage rate as well as very large families. If it continues another few generation, the Orthodox will start displacing Israeli Arabs, whose birthrates have lowered to just replacement levels.
An interesting note is that both groups use the Internet, but the Israeli Orthodox use it exclusively for business.
I would rather see multiple studies on the majors of the college-educated women to see if they correspond to those of the spouses they purport to seek. If a wife wants to be materially supported by a husband, or to support a husband, was the degree worth the investment ?
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It really might just be me, but as a hard-working man in his 30’s in an area where I should be at an advantage I’ve found it nearly impossible to find a woman who isn’t either overweight, tatted-up, or have a very strict checklist of qualities they want in a partner. It’s not that hard to find a sex partner, but I’ve just about given up on finding someone decent and marriage-minded.
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