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US married father's horror after wife places his child with an adopted family without telling him
Daily Mail [UK] ^ | 3 December 2012 | Nina Golgowski

Posted on 12/04/2012 12:24:52 PM PST by Slings and Arrows

A Texas man is battling for custody of his first-born daughter after his wife successfully gave her up for adoption without telling him - to a family who now refuses to return the girl.

Terry Achane, 31, a drill instructor in South Carolina, says it was just days after he left his pregnant wife for his new job out of state that she quietly signed over their unborn baby to a family of seven in Utah.

His newborn baby, whom he had wanted to name Teleah, was given to Jared and Kristi Frei, who now say the girl is theirs and won't give her back without a fight.

Mr Achane says that he and his wife, Tira Bland, were having marital problems not long after learning she was pregnant in 2010, leading to her decision and his now spiraling struggle today despite a judge ordering the girl returned to him last October.

The now ex-husband says Ms Bland had suggested having an abortion or giving their child up for adoption - fearing she would end up as a single mother - but he said no, encouraging their daughter's birth.

It was just months later in February of 2011 that Mr Achane found himself sent to Fort Jackson in South Carolina for work, believing he’d leave and come back a new dad.

Ten days after his move, however, his wife went gave birth to a premature baby and signed away their child before cutting all contact with her husband.

(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; US: Texas; US: Utah
KEYWORDS: adoption; feminazism; parentalrights; savethemales
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To: Responsibility2nd

Exactly.


51 posted on 12/04/2012 1:44:44 PM PST by bgill (We've passed the point of no return. Welcome to Al Amerika.)
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To: donna

Wonder how many $$$ the wife was paid?


52 posted on 12/04/2012 1:47:44 PM PST by tired&retired
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To: fudimo

I’m surprised the judge didn’t order that.


53 posted on 12/04/2012 1:49:51 PM PST by Andy'smom
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To: Responsibility2nd

So, call me stupid. The Freepers have in their majority piled up on me. They think I know little or nothing about which I speak. My own daughter works with Human Resources in the USA, and has helped 122 babies find happy homes. Most of these are babies being born to single moms doing open adoptions, and rather than abort their babies they have chosen to offer their children to loving parents who offer a secure and safe family enviroment MOST fears of families doing legal adoptions is the ensuing entanglements of court´s actions that would disrupt the bonding that does take place soon after birth, of an infant with their prospective parents.
We adopted a baby 40 years ago, a single mom who didn´t want the father to know.....it was a one night stand. My daughter has adopted 3 children each having spent 4 years in an orphanage.
Sorry, about what people think the law stipulates,but the child really does need to find loving arms soon after birth, and I feel sorry for the guy in South Carolina, at this point he was a sperm donor. He wasn´t even aware of the pregnancy and his desires to have his baby back is exaclty the reason many parents withold their love and refuse to adopt a baby for similar fears that happen like this.


54 posted on 12/04/2012 1:50:10 PM PST by rovenstinez
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To: rovenstinez

The damage was done with the illegal adoption. It’s easy for someone else to say “move on”. That little girl has a father who wants her and she needs to be with him.


55 posted on 12/04/2012 1:51:26 PM PST by frnewsjunkie
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To: rovenstinez

It’s too bad your personal situation has clouded your mind on this story. The father was not just a sperm donor; he was fully aware of the pregnancy and told the mother specifically not to abort the baby because even if she didn’t want it, he did. He is a loving man who had his child taken away from him through deception by the mother, the adoption agency, and the adoptive parents, who all knew that he wanted the child and yet kept her from him anyway. An environment founded on such lies cannot be a secure and safe family environment.


56 posted on 12/04/2012 2:00:08 PM PST by drjimmy
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To: rovenstinez
"The child´s rights at this time are greater than the sire´s right"

Horsehockey! He's the child's father not a "sire". You aren't a parent, are you?

57 posted on 12/04/2012 2:08:30 PM PST by Chainmail (A simple rule of life: if you can be blamed, you're responsible.)
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To: rovenstinez
He wasn´t even aware of the pregnancy

Reading seems to be another problem you suffer. He had already scheduled time to be there for the birth.
58 posted on 12/04/2012 2:09:26 PM PST by PA Engineer (Liberate America from the Occupation Media.)
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To: rovenstinez
If you read the article carefully, the father did know his wife was pregnant. The child was born prematurely. And he was in the military, he had no choice but to go where he was sent. He as not just irresponsibly taking a job out of state and abandoning his pregnant wife. While it is true the baby has undoubtedly bonded with the birth parents, to allow this to stand sets a bad precedent and makes this kind of fraud all the easier to commit in the future. A soldier has the same rights to his legitimate children, as any other man. And, the child has a right to her father and her own family, or marriage means nothing. (William Buckley took this position some years ago in another case where a child was adopted against the wishes of the father.) In any event, this case cannot stand as precedent, especially when there is this level of fraud, or it will happen again and again. In any case, it this is handled properly, the child can be returned to her father without being horribly traumatized.
59 posted on 12/04/2012 2:09:53 PM PST by erkelly (Never underestimate the stupidity of the stupid party!)
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To: drjimmy

I wish FreeRepublic had ‘Like’ buttons. I agree, this father has always wanted the baby, and she should never have Ben taken from him!


60 posted on 12/04/2012 2:11:16 PM PST by passionfruit (When illegals become legal, even they won't do the work Americans won't do)
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To: drjimmy

I wish FreeRepublic had ‘Like’ buttons. I agree, this father has always wanted the baby, and she should never have Ben taken from him!


61 posted on 12/04/2012 2:11:22 PM PST by passionfruit (When illegals become legal, even they won't do the work Americans won't do)
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To: Chickensoup
Our children were born in ‘63 ‘66 and ‘72. When were yours born?
62 posted on 12/04/2012 2:12:37 PM PST by Ditter
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To: rovenstinez

When you’re in a hole - STOP DIGGING.

This latest reply does nothing to help alleviate your remarks in post 5.


63 posted on 12/04/2012 2:13:07 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: Slings and Arrows

That child was sold or given by her mother to an “adoption” agency that is obviously dabbling in quasi-legal human trafficking-that is kidnapping. The mother of the child likely did the deed for money and to get back at her soldier-husband for some slight, and I think she ought to do hard time for fraud-someoner paid cold hard cash for that baby-child theft and selling isn’t free.

The couple adopting the child are apparently trying to play a religion card to keep the child, even though they knew the adoption was bogus from the gitgo-they should shut up and give the kid back NOW, not in 60 days as ordered, or be arrested for being a party to a child abduction.

That human trafficking syndicate posing as an “adoption agency” should be closed and the owners jailed.

As soon as the little girl is returned to her father, I hope he sues the bogus adoptive couple, the agency, and especially his selfish ex-wife. Poor man...


64 posted on 12/04/2012 2:15:28 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: Chickensoup

“It is not legally yours until all rights are signed off.”

Or forcibly removed by court order.

We adopted two, in May of this year, 2 fathers, one mother. One father signed off, one father ignored the whole procedure after being notified repeatedly.

The mother showed up at two hearings and missed three, she was in jail during one of them. The judge read her criminal and drug addiction history and removed her rights.

“Two new additions to our family” - (with pictures):

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2886877/posts


65 posted on 12/04/2012 2:19:31 PM PST by Graybeard58 (What G.O.P.e. candidate is in store for us in 2016?)
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To: FR_addict

there are laws to protect military on deployment for just such events.

In this case

1. The court would have ordered paternity FIRST.

2. This is no different than picking a random child and literally selling them for adoption. Rember you can’t sell children but you do have to pay for lawyer fees, agency fees, and “living expenses” of the mother.


66 posted on 12/04/2012 2:19:52 PM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: Fightin Whitey
Is it here? (On the left side.) It's got "contumely," "ignorant" and "Russell Baker," and it's 29 years old.

Remarkably, in its history the NYT has printed about a dozen articles with the words "contumely," "Russell" and "Baker." (And not all of them by Russell Baker.)

67 posted on 12/04/2012 2:24:17 PM PST by untenured
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To: Fightin Whitey

Here’s another one:

http://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1310&dat=19830327&id=-KZYAAAAIBAJ&sjid=QOIDAAAAIBAJ&pg=6909,6305516


68 posted on 12/04/2012 2:28:28 PM PST by PLMerite (Shut the Beyotch Down! Burn, baby, burn!)
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To: facedown; Mr. Lucky; Fightin Whitey

Hey - stop right there!

If anyone dares to call me ContumaciousTex, I’ll bop him right in the nose. hrrrumpphh!

;>D


69 posted on 12/04/2012 2:30:22 PM PST by RebelTex (Soli Deo Gloria, "To God alone the glory")
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To: Slings and Arrows

That child was sold or given by her mother to an “adoption” agency that is obviously dabbling in quasi-legal human trafficking-that is kidnapping. The mother of the child likely did the deed for money and to get back at her soldier-husband for some slight, and I think she ought to do hard time for fraud-someoner paid cold hard cash for that baby-child theft and selling isn’t free.

The couple adopting the child are apparently trying to play a religion card to keep the child, even though they knew the adoption was bogus from the gitgo-they should shut up and give the kid back NOW, not in 60 days as ordered, or be arrested for being a party to a child abduction.

That human trafficking syndicate posing as an “adoption agency” should be closed and the owners jailed.

As soon as the little girl is returned to her father, I hope he sues the bogus adoptive couple, the agency, and especially his selfish ex-wife. Poor man...


70 posted on 12/04/2012 2:50:00 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: Slings and Arrows

How could she have LEGALLY signed over the child, without his signature? It could be done, if they weren’t married, but marriage should confer some sort of protection for the spouse who is not making this decision. She could have gotten an abortion without his say in the matter, but once that baby was born, it was legally HIS, as well as hers.


71 posted on 12/04/2012 2:55:58 PM PST by SuziQ
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To: Slings and Arrows

Oops-sorry for the double post...


72 posted on 12/04/2012 3:00:38 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: SuziQ

,I’ve heard that the adoption laws are less kind to fathers in some states, but this seems just totally ridiculous-the woman prpobably went to Utah to have the kid where her husband wouldn’t know about the birth, so she could sell/give away the kid to spite him, but is it legal for the “agency” to deceive and hide the facts from a child’s legal and biological father in Utah?


73 posted on 12/04/2012 3:11:09 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: SuziQ

,I’ve heard that the adoption laws are less kind to fathers in some states, but this seems just totally ridiculous-the woman probably went to Utah to have the kid where her husband wouldn’t know about the birth, so she could sell/give away the kid to spite him, but is it legal for the “agency” to deceive and hide the facts from a child’s legal and biological father in Utah?


74 posted on 12/04/2012 3:11:34 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: rovenstinez

Hi, Kristi.


75 posted on 12/04/2012 3:12:13 PM PST by SeaHawkFan
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To: Texan5

In advance, yet-I give up...


76 posted on 12/04/2012 3:12:37 PM PST by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: rovenstinez

By your thought processes, children placed in foster care at birth and spend the first year and a half or longer in the care of a guardian must be adopted by that guardian, or suffer dire consequences. Or, children placed in foster care in the first three to five years of life, and who move from one foster-care home to another WILL face dire consequences. Unfortunately, there is little evidence that supports your contention.


77 posted on 12/04/2012 3:15:07 PM PST by SoldierDad (Proud dad of an Army Soldier who has survived 24 months of Combat deployment.)
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To: Graybeard58

So the courts signed you off! LoL


78 posted on 12/04/2012 3:16:05 PM PST by Chickensoup (Leftist Totalitarian Fascism coming to a country like yours.)
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To: rovenstinez

“the childs rights”

to stay with the kidnappers?? (as far as I am concerned)

you seriously think the child would make a conscient choice to stay with non-family?


79 posted on 12/04/2012 3:24:14 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: MAexile

We have a good friend in a Central American who just died from cancer, leaving 4 children, ages 18, 15, 8 & 5, plus an older married daughter. We looked into adopting the children, but we told that the US adoption agency fees would be $10,000 to $15,000 (I was afraid to ask if that was for the whole family, or per child) plus $5,000 for legal fees in the Central American country.

A bit more checking revealed that the adoptive parents can be no more that 45 years older than the child. That ended our quest.

The Adoption Industry, bolstered by The Hague Adoption Convention, seems to hinder, rather than facilitate the process.

(the two youngest children will live with their oldest sister. We will do what we can for the older two, plus they have a very good local church.)


80 posted on 12/04/2012 3:30:39 PM PST by BwanaNdege (Man has often lost his way, but modern man has lost his address - Gilbert K. Chesterton)
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To: BwanaNdege

wouldn’t the 18 year old be able to take custody of the 15 year old?


81 posted on 12/04/2012 3:33:09 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: PLMerite; untenured

You guys are too much.

I didn’t find anything in my searches...but I suppose I was assuming that the headline under which I read it, “In Praise Of Ignorant Contumely,” was the title provided by the wire service.

Alternatively it could just be that I am simply ignorant about the effective use of Google, in which case you can all just p!$$ off!

(lol)


82 posted on 12/04/2012 3:41:57 PM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: RebelTex

Sounds like a kind of dinosaur doesn’t it?

“And here, people, right next to the Tyrannosaurus Rex, we have its larger cousin—and meaner, and scarier, and even more deadly—Contumacious Tex!”


83 posted on 12/04/2012 3:48:49 PM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: Fightin Whitey

ROTFLOL

I love it when someone comes up with a great comeback line.
Your reply was sharp, imaginative, creative, and an excellent play on words.

Kudos to you. We all need more humor in these tryin’ times.

FReegards,
RT


84 posted on 12/04/2012 3:59:44 PM PST by RebelTex (Soli Deo Gloria, "To God alone the glory")
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To: rovenstinez
21 months the baby has bonded with the new parents. He needs to move on, it really is sad, but the damage of taking a little one away from the bonded parents is very devastating... The child´s rights at this time are greater than the sire´s right.

Parental rights are inalienable and removing them ALWAYS exceptional and only through due process.

WOW. You better do some soul searching and get your house in order because you have been duped by leftist propaganda.

85 posted on 12/04/2012 5:30:06 PM PST by DBeers (†)
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To: Slings and Arrows

5. Many of the UK papers have US readership numbers that are extremely large.


86 posted on 12/04/2012 5:53:20 PM PST by buffaloguy
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To: rovenstinez

This wasn’t some sperm donor. This was the husband of the mother and the legal father. Can you imagine the reaction if the husband had passed a child to adoptive parents without the consent of the mother? He, and EVERYONE involved would be in jail for kidnapping!!


87 posted on 12/04/2012 6:07:56 PM PST by SauronOfMordor (To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize - Voltaire)
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To: Slings and Arrows
The adoption agency Adoption Center of Choice told the new family that Mr Achane wasn't aware of his daughter's placement with them and he would most likely contest it if he had found out.

Then the new 'family' are a despicable lot.

88 posted on 12/04/2012 7:55:19 PM PST by Half Vast Conspiracy (I made a prank call...pretended I was a mime.)
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To: buffaloguy

Especially on FR.


89 posted on 12/04/2012 8:17:01 PM PST by Slings and Arrows (You can't have IngSoc without an Emmanuel Goldstein.)
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To: Half Vast Conspiracy

Mommy and the Adoption Center aren’t winning any gold stars, either.


90 posted on 12/04/2012 8:20:37 PM PST by Slings and Arrows (You can't have IngSoc without an Emmanuel Goldstein.)
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To: WVKayaker

Went and read the “adoptive” family’s blog.. They are appealing and from what I read, still have the baby..


91 posted on 12/04/2012 8:41:48 PM PST by pnz1
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To: Slings and Arrows
My guesses as to why:

...and I have guesses as well. All of them disagree with your 1-4 starting with your population claims. I very well might be wrong but I can't data to back that first up.

It's all downhill for me after that. Not that it makes a whits bit of difference what I think. It doesn't.

92 posted on 12/04/2012 8:55:18 PM PST by houeto (https://secure.freerepublic.com/donate/)
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To: svcw
She was married. The adoption is not valid. Good luck to the father, the adoptive family is being absurd. I am sure they love the child, but she is not theirs.

I have been in similar situations with dogs. DOGS!!! Yes, I loved them and wanted to keep them but, when the rightful owner found me, after I got proof there was no hesitation.

With a blood born child?!? Good grief! Selfish does not begin to explain what I think about these people.

That is her DAD you dirtbags!

93 posted on 12/04/2012 9:35:58 PM PST by houeto (https://secure.freerepublic.com/donate/)
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To: Slings and Arrows

It is not just on FR. The UK Telegraph, Guardian and Daily Mail are extremely popular in America.


94 posted on 12/05/2012 5:59:34 AM PST by buffaloguy
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To: rovenstinez
Please allow me to be the first to call you "stupid": we Fathers are routinely trashed throughout our system and you are merely the next in line. If you really want to see second-class citizens, we Dads are the lowest of all when it comes to rights, respect, legal defense. I was divorced many years ago and I was deeply devoted to my little daughter. My Ex remarried instantly and then began a long miserable process of keeping her away from me as punishment. I was pushed from my daughter's life by constrained visitation, my Ex moving far away from me, restricting contact, changing my Daughter's last name to the new husband's, etc., etc. I wasted thousands of dollars on lawyers and the California court system to get more visitation, to get her real name used in her records, etc. but lost every time. All they did was double my child support.

She's an adult now so those days are over but I missed almost all of her childhood and most of the love and influence and teaching I could have given.

Dad's are important - even vital - but we are at the bottom of this society's priorities. Your post is just the latest evidence of that fact.

95 posted on 12/05/2012 6:13:26 AM PST by Chainmail (A simple rule of life: if you can be blamed, you're responsible.)
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To: svcw

The father is in the Army

He was reassigned to South Carolina

The mother went to Utah and the the so called “adoptive parte4nts are whiter Mormons there who lied along with the female who gave birth to the judge about the father...

aty first the fact they were MARRIED and that she was no ABANDONED and that the father DIDNT sign away his parental rights was covered up...

the white Mormon couple are falsely collecting money online to fight the rightful decision by the judge to give the baby back to her father...

at first they claimed he had abandoned the female while she was 7 months pregnant and conveniently left of the fact they were married and he was in the army and had to leave...

These frauds should be proscecuted for kidnapping and a scam to illict money ...

unfortunately Utah has very nasty adoption laws that override the rights of fathers very easily...


96 posted on 12/05/2012 6:28:41 AM PST by Tennessee Nana
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To: Tennessee Nana

I am not surprised that Utah has such laws, not surprised at all.


97 posted on 12/05/2012 6:48:40 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: RebelTex
The you, sir, would be behaving contumeliously.
98 posted on 12/05/2012 7:40:06 AM PST by Mr. Lucky
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To: Mr. Lucky

LOL

My good sir, I vociferously rebel at that notion.

;^D


99 posted on 12/05/2012 2:29:36 PM PST by RebelTex (Soli Deo Gloria, "To God alone the glory")
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To: rockinqsranch
I thought when people got married the husbands name was now the wifes as well.

Not always. It's not that unusual anymore.

100 posted on 12/05/2012 2:50:29 PM PST by muggs (Hope and Change = Hoax and Chains)
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