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US married father's horror after wife places his child with an adopted family without telling him
Daily Mail [UK] ^ | 3 December 2012 | Nina Golgowski

Posted on 12/04/2012 12:24:52 PM PST by Slings and Arrows

A Texas man is battling for custody of his first-born daughter after his wife successfully gave her up for adoption without telling him - to a family who now refuses to return the girl.

Terry Achane, 31, a drill instructor in South Carolina, says it was just days after he left his pregnant wife for his new job out of state that she quietly signed over their unborn baby to a family of seven in Utah.

His newborn baby, whom he had wanted to name Teleah, was given to Jared and Kristi Frei, who now say the girl is theirs and won't give her back without a fight.

Mr Achane says that he and his wife, Tira Bland, were having marital problems not long after learning she was pregnant in 2010, leading to her decision and his now spiraling struggle today despite a judge ordering the girl returned to him last October.

The now ex-husband says Ms Bland had suggested having an abortion or giving their child up for adoption - fearing she would end up as a single mother - but he said no, encouraging their daughter's birth.

It was just months later in February of 2011 that Mr Achane found himself sent to Fort Jackson in South Carolina for work, believing he’d leave and come back a new dad.

Ten days after his move, however, his wife went gave birth to a premature baby and signed away their child before cutting all contact with her husband.

(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; US: Texas; US: Utah
KEYWORDS: adoption; feminazism; parentalrights; savethemales
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1 posted on 12/04/2012 12:25:00 PM PST by Slings and Arrows
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To: Slings and Arrows

Family courts in this country are just completely out of control.


2 posted on 12/04/2012 12:26:58 PM PST by FreedomPoster (Islam delenda est)
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To: FreedomPoster

Does he have to pay them Child Support?


3 posted on 12/04/2012 12:31:45 PM PST by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: Slings and Arrows

Hmm, I know for a fact that in Texas both the biological mother, the biological father, the legally married husband, and the legally married wife all need to legally sign away their rights to the child. The mother can’t do it on her own.


4 posted on 12/04/2012 12:33:16 PM PST by bgill (We've passed the point of no return. Welcome to Al Amerika.)
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To: FreedomPoster

21 months the baby has bonded with the new parents. He needs to move on, it really is sad, but the damage of taking a little one away from the bonded parents is very devastating... The child´s rights at this time are greater than the sire´s right.


5 posted on 12/04/2012 12:34:33 PM PST by rovenstinez
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To: Slings and Arrows

Another version here:

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/12/04/drill-instructor-reportedly-ready-for-daughter-return-in-indefensible-adoption/?test=latestnews

The judge had some rather harsh words for the ex-wife, agency, and adoptive parents.


6 posted on 12/04/2012 12:35:57 PM PST by MAexile (Bats left, votes right)
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To: FreedomPoster
There is something seriously wrong with a system which doesn't question the ability of one spouse to sign away a piece of community property without written consent of the other. Had the husband done this with, say, the family car, there would be hell to pay.

This is the purpose of redefining marriage to include queers: so children become nothing more than chattel to satisfy the "needs" of adults.

7 posted on 12/04/2012 12:35:57 PM PST by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: Slings and Arrows

In another article, I read that, yesterday, a judge ordered that the child be returned to her father.


8 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:07 PM PST by writmeister
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To: bgill

Article goes into more detail.


9 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:07 PM PST by Slings and Arrows (You can't have IngSoc without an Emmanuel Goldstein.)
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To: Slings and Arrows

Achane!? Bland!? Married!?

NOT making much sense here. I thought when people got married the husbands name was now the wifes as well.

Curious.


10 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:22 PM PST by rockinqsranch (Dems, Libs, Socialists, call 'em what you will, they ALL have fairies livin' in their trees.)
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To: Slings and Arrows

In another article, I read that, yesterday, a judge ordered that the child be returned to her father.


11 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:29 PM PST by writmeister
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To: Slings and Arrows

In another article, I read that, yesterday, a judge ordered that the child be returned to her father.


12 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:36 PM PST by writmeister
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To: Slings and Arrows

In another article, I read that, yesterday, a judge ordered that the child be returned to her father.


13 posted on 12/04/2012 12:36:48 PM PST by writmeister
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To: Slings and Arrows

These Frei people do not look very good, if this article is at all accurate.


14 posted on 12/04/2012 12:37:35 PM PST by wideawake
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To: Slings and Arrows

Pardon the multiple postings.


15 posted on 12/04/2012 12:38:57 PM PST by writmeister
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To: Slings and Arrows

Doesn’t it seem like the U.K. press is breaking a lot of interesting stories the U.S. press is not? It was true during the campaign as well.


16 posted on 12/04/2012 12:39:59 PM PST by Perkalong (GOP 2012 = Whigs 1856)
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To: bgill
Hmm, I know for a fact that in Texas both the biological mother, the biological father, the legally married husband, and the legally married wife all need to legally sign away their rights to the child. The mother can’t do it on her own.

I believe that Texas allows use of a web-based putative father registry (which NO ONE ever checks) with a defined time limit, after which no response is taken as consent. That would only be pertinent if there were no husband involved. There must have been some lying gong on somewhere.
17 posted on 12/04/2012 12:40:17 PM PST by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics.)
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To: Slings and Arrows
His newborn baby, whom he had wanted to name Teleah ...

If the poor little girl was given a sensible name by the adoptive parents, can she keep it?

18 posted on 12/04/2012 12:40:28 PM PST by Tax-chick (Dan, is that your eyeball on the floor?)
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To: rovenstinez

So a couple who defrauded the father and contumaciously ignored the court’s order has thereby bestowed new rights upon the child? Hardly.


19 posted on 12/04/2012 12:42:25 PM PST by Mr. Lucky
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To: Perkalong

Why the hell doesn’t our media pick these stories up? Something is rotten here, and it ain’t even partisan.


20 posted on 12/04/2012 12:44:47 PM PST by MetaThought
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To: rovenstinez
the damage of taking a little one away from the bonded parents is very devastating

That's life.

Stockholm Syndrome is not an enduring basis for family law.

21 posted on 12/04/2012 12:47:26 PM PST by wideawake
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To: Perkalong

My guesses as to why:

1. The US has four times the population of the UK; i.e., four times the news, all things being equal.

2. It’s safer for UK papers to report on US events - UK libel laws are very biased in favor of the plaintiff.

3. Human nature - misery is more entertaining when it’s far away.

4. The US is the world’s big dog - when we bark, everybody hears.


22 posted on 12/04/2012 12:48:29 PM PST by Slings and Arrows (You can't have IngSoc without an Emmanuel Goldstein.)
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To: Slings and Arrows

She was married.
The adoption is not valid.
Good luck to the father, the adoptive family is being absurd.
I am sure they love the child, but she is not theirs.


23 posted on 12/04/2012 12:50:03 PM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: rovenstinez

What the hell?
She is not even two, he is the father and the child is hers.


24 posted on 12/04/2012 12:51:14 PM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: rovenstinez
The child´s rights at this time are greater than the sire´s right.

What the hell are you thinking? That child HAS NO RIGHTS, unless her FATHER signs them away. Children are not chattel, but they do belong to the birth parents, EXCEPT IN A SOCIALIST STATE. WE ARE CLOSE, BUT NOT THERE YET. Mayby you need to go stand in a corner and think about it.

At 21 months, the baby may cry for a couple of days, or may not. At 21 months, she is still a toddler, depending on someone to clean her crap. She will be happier in the long run, WITH HER FATHER. It will make an interesting story, but she will KNOW how much she is loved! **

UPDATE:

A South Carolina man whose wife put their baby up for adoption without his knowledge or consent will be reunited with his daughter after a nearly two-year legal battle, a Utah court ruled.

A Provo judge ruled he was “astonished and deeply troubled" by an adoption agency’s deliberate efforts to circumvent the legal rights of father Terry Achane, who was serving as an Army drill instructor when his child was adopted without his knowledge. -click pic to read full article


25 posted on 12/04/2012 12:52:21 PM PST by WVKayaker ("Hang in there, America. Fight for what is right." - Sarah Palin 11/7/12)
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To: Mr. Lucky
contumaciously

Great word!

26 posted on 12/04/2012 12:52:53 PM PST by xone
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To: All

Judging by the woman’s character the bio father should request a DNA test on the child before he goes any further to be sure the child is his.


27 posted on 12/04/2012 12:52:53 PM PST by fudimo
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To: FreedomPoster

The family court got it right. The couple knew the father had not consented to the adoption as did the agency. The adoption was concealed from him by his wife and the agency. The court has ordered the child returned to her father.


28 posted on 12/04/2012 12:54:47 PM PST by colorado tanker
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To: rovenstinez

21 months?

that is nonsense.

The court returned custody, the ex did adoption fraud. The father is known, and so he gets the child. The case law supports a pro-active father.

The delay caused by adoptive parents is a legal tactic to prevent the inevitable via nusance.

The law is on the father’s side on this one.


29 posted on 12/04/2012 12:54:52 PM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: svcw

succinct, and to the point. I had to get wordy and seek more info... see update above


30 posted on 12/04/2012 12:55:03 PM PST by WVKayaker ("Hang in there, America. Fight for what is right." - Sarah Palin 11/7/12)
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To: Mr. Lucky

“contumaciously”

Excellent!

Thirty years ago when I still read three newspapers a day Russell Baker wrote a piece entitled “In Praise of Ignorant Contumely,” which was very fine and very funny.

I carried around the faded newsprint copy for some years but eventually it was lost.

Even now in the near-deathless age of google I have been unable to dig it up again. But thanks for resurrecting the term, for me at least.


31 posted on 12/04/2012 12:55:29 PM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: Slings and Arrows

How is this not kidnapping??


32 posted on 12/04/2012 12:57:25 PM PST by Marie ("The last time Democrats gloated this hard after a health care victory, they lost 60 House seats.")
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To: Mr. Lucky
contumaciously

Wow, I learn something new on this board every day.

33 posted on 12/04/2012 12:58:00 PM PST by facedown (Armed in the Heartland)
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To: Mr. Lucky
I like the kidnappers' rationale too:

(1) We knew the father hadn't given permission. We were willing to accept that challenge! So reward us for parenting through challenges!

(2) We had already adopted a child of this ethnic background, and we wanted to steal another in order to have a matching set! You are going to throw off my whole family decoration scheme!

34 posted on 12/04/2012 12:58:43 PM PST by wideawake
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To: fudimo
Judging by the woman’s character the bio father should request a DNA test on the child before he goes any further to be sure the child is his.

Absolutely what I would do. Women be crazy.

35 posted on 12/04/2012 1:03:50 PM PST by glorgau
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To: Slings and Arrows

He will get the baby back. The marriage contract trumps all bonds and the family would be fools to fight it.

Happended to a friend who adopted, years and years ago. Sad crazy women.


36 posted on 12/04/2012 1:07:55 PM PST by Chickensoup (Leftist Totalitarian Fascism coming to a country like yours.)
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To: colorado tanker

lawyers for the couple adopting in these cases have only one option. delay delay delay. The longer they delay the more they can game the system. Demand fitness hearings, mediation, offer supervised visitation, offer unsupervised visitation and so on and hope the child will become aware enough to bond with the couple and learn to hate the father.

The couple, in this case, should sue the mother and the adoption agency. I am willing to bet the mother had the baby and gave it up for adoption as a vindictive passive agressive action.

(btw the court would have already ordered paternity first)


37 posted on 12/04/2012 1:08:42 PM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: rovenstinez
21 months the baby has bonded with the new parents. He needs to move on, it really is sad, but the damage of taking a little one away from the bonded parents is very devastating... The child´s rights at this time are greater than the sire´s right.

...even if the adoptive parents are prima facie rotten? Also, do you have an actual example of such a thing happening and bad repercussions on the child (by being returned to her father)?
38 posted on 12/04/2012 1:10:09 PM PST by bramps (Sarah Palin got more votes in 2008 than Romney did in 2012)
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To: Marie

“How is this not kidnapping??”

I agree. They all knew the father wpuld object and proceeded anyway — the mother, the agency, and the adoptive parents.

He’s serving in our military and this is what happens behind his back? I think there should be chargtes too.


39 posted on 12/04/2012 1:13:40 PM PST by FR_addict
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To: Slings and Arrows

Maybe his wife knows something he doesn’t.

Has he done a DNA test?


40 posted on 12/04/2012 1:14:29 PM PST by donna (Pray for revival.)
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To: Chickensoup
We adopted 3 children, 2 through an agency and one through an attorney. The last one, through the attorney was all done properly and legally but the birth mother came back to him and said she wanted to visit her child.

He told her we had moved away and he lost track of us. this was 40 years ago and she made no attempt to find us. He didn't tell me for several years and I was thankful that I didn't know because I would have been worried that she would show up on our doorstep one day. This was back in the day before open adoptions.

41 posted on 12/04/2012 1:15:39 PM PST by Ditter
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I have four adopted at birth children.

The baby is not yours until it is legally yours. It is not legally yours until all rights are signed off.


42 posted on 12/04/2012 1:18:58 PM PST by Chickensoup (Leftist Totalitarian Fascism coming to a country like yours.)
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To: rovenstinez

“He needs to move on...”

You would abandon your child?


43 posted on 12/04/2012 1:20:11 PM PST by moovova
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To: Slings and Arrows

A mess, but it’s also a good illustration of why abortion is so horrible. If she’d aborted the child against his wishes instead of giving it up for adoption, as she’d apparently originally intended and as millions of others do every year, there’d be no case, nothing to discuss, we’d have never heard of it, but his loss would be a thousand times worse than being deprived of his daughter in his life for 21 months.


44 posted on 12/04/2012 1:22:31 PM PST by Behind the Blue Wall
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To: Chickensoup

Yes I know. Mine were all adopted at birth. Went to court at 6 months to make it legal. I did not want to have any contact with the birth parents.


45 posted on 12/04/2012 1:30:33 PM PST by Ditter
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To: rovenstinez

You fail to take into account that these “bonded parents” are keeping a child from the biological father who wanted her even before she was born, who kept the mother from aborting her, and who has jumped through hoops to get custody and raise her.

Not so sure the little girl is better off with such people. who already have a houseful of kids.

My vote is with Dad.


46 posted on 12/04/2012 1:31:11 PM PST by Jedidah
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To: Slings and Arrows
The talking points at the top of the article tell the story....

It's just a matter of time before the child is placed with his birth father.

New home: Days after Tia Bland gave birth to her daughter while her husband was working out of state, Kristi Frei, a Utah mother of six others welcomed the baby into her home knowing that the father didn't know about the adoption

OMG.

What a horrible buck-toothed nasty sneer this child stealer has. She should be locked up.

47 posted on 12/04/2012 1:33:36 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: rovenstinez

I see there were lots of replies to your ignorant post. Here’s mine

And none of them are in support of you. I didn’t check to see if - by now - you backed off that dumb remark. But unless you are stuck on stupid - I’m sure you have.


48 posted on 12/04/2012 1:36:52 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: Dr. Sivana; bgill

When we adopted our daughter - here in Texas - there were three signatures required to surrender rights.

1. The birth mother.
2. The birth father.
3. The birth mother’s husband who is by law presumed to be the father. (He wasn’t, but he still had rights).


49 posted on 12/04/2012 1:40:31 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: Ditter

I met ours but no contact info exchanged. Sent letters once a year. Nice women, great kids.


50 posted on 12/04/2012 1:44:44 PM PST by Chickensoup (Leftist Totalitarian Fascism coming to a country like yours.)
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