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'It often feels like Christmas in Sweden is only about presents' (iPads for 3-year olds!?)
www.thelocal.se ^ | 12/19/2011 | Rebecca Ahlfeldt

Posted on 12/22/2011 7:17:17 PM PST by WesternCulture

Deep down inside we all regret the fact that we have turned Christmas, originally a celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ, into a feast of consumption.

Americans view themselves as being the worst example of this attitude and behavior. But are they?

Perhaps there are nations even worse.

Below, a report from an American ex-pat living in my home country, Sweden.

The article;

"Rampant holiday consumerism is hard to avoid, writes US-native and parent Rebecca Ahlfeldt, as she struggles to reconcile competing Swedish and American Christmas traditions in finding gifts for her children.

Our family has entirely too much stuff.

This fact comes to my attention a few times a year, usually prompting yet another trip to Ikea, looking for storage, “for now, until we can figure out what to get rid of.”

My current assessment of our overflowing household was prompted by the fact that Christmas is coming.

And there will be presents, lots of presents.

Presents that, strictly speaking, we don’t need.

Each of these presents will take up more space. Space that we don’t have, which will inevitably result in another trip to Ikea.

Around Christmas time, I feel pulled in two directions.

On one hand, as my children, whom we’ll call ‘Erik’ and ‘Gabrielle’, carefully write their Christmas lists, I get caught up in their excitement and want (I’ll admit it) to give them what they want.

On the other hand, our kids really don’t need any more Ninjago toys. Or dinosaurs. Or, my personal favorite, “an owl with a leaf in a tree.”

Our kids don’t need anything. Or, rather, anything they need won’t come wrapped under the Christmas tree.

I want our family to be part of something more meaningful around Christmas; however, I struggle with finding a balance now that we’re in Sweden.

It doesn’t seem like people spend more than a day or two with their extended families during the holidays around here.

I don’t know of anywhere our family can go together to donate presents or canned food to local families in need. We’re not particularly religious, so we don’t spend time at church.

We used to go to the San Francisco Zoo to meet Santa’s reindeer, but the only reindeer I’ve seen around Stockholm come in sausage form. In other words, moving to Sweden has meant that we’ve lost a lot of the traditions that make Christmas more than presents.

And it’s hard to get the kids’ little minds off of presents when the subject of Christmas comes up.

Especially when Erik writes his Christmas list at school. In a country where getting a large pile of Christmas gifts seems to be a birthright. In a country where we’re all supposed to be doing things the same way.

Take, for example, December 1st at Erik’s school. We hadn’t even made it through the door to Erik’s class before the Advent calendar talk started.

“I got a robber in my Lego calendar. What did you get?”

“The football card calendars were sold out, so I got the Star Wars one.”

Another girl says with a funny smile, “My parents tried to find an Advent calendar for me last night, but they were all sold out. Even the TV one.”

All sold out?

“They cost so much money,” a mom quietly laments to me.

“One for each kid plus the TV calendar.”

“’Well, kids,’” I quip, “’no more presents this year.’”

We both laugh.

Because we both know this would never happen. And we both know that, despite complaints, we’ll buy Advent calendars next year as well.

After all, it’s tradition.

I’ll admit this: we have four advent calendars at our house. For two kids.

Two years ago in the US, the kids didn’t even know what an Advent calendar was.

Not that this problem of Christmas consumption is uniquely Swedish. Not that Christmas isn’t all about buying in the US—it is.

We even have a special day dedicated to buying that makes headlines around the world, almost a national holiday for Christmas shopping: Black Friday.

Despite this, back in the US it just felt like there was less cultural pressure around Christmas buying, especially since a chunk of our kids’ friends didn’t even celebrate it.

Of course, it takes only one news program on rural Afghanistan or a day at my old job in a New York City public school to render all these quandaries ridiculous and absurd. What a disgustingly privileged problem to have too much stuff.

But how do I instill that kind of awareness into my kids without sucking the joy out of Christmas?

My brother Robert has made more progress in this area than I have, I’ll admit.

Robert, a relentless opponent of wasteful consumerism, read and lived by a study that found that, for maximum pleasure and enjoyment each gift, a person should receive no more than… three gifts.

Just pause to imagine explaining this one to the grandparents.

He also refused to buy a trucked-in tree or Christmas decorations. However, even he broke down after a few years of pleas from his two kids.

My mom came and filled up the kids’ stockings with fun, completely unnecessary toys, and he got a tree. The tree was small and potted, and I don’t think it survived the intended transplant.

Still, both kids and adults seemed happy with the compromise.

So even Robert, a person who sticks to his principles, living in a community relatively free from the usual pressures of conformity and consumerism—he lives in Berkeley, California, an alternate universe where the only thing looked down upon is being a part of mainstream culture—even he has relaxed some of his standards and let consumerism into his front door.

Now, just imagine my brother moving into our storybook neighborhood here in Sweden, where every house, every single one, has Advent lights or stars glowing in the windows.

Imagine the confusion when his kids explained to their classmates that they celebrate Christmas but won’t have a Christmas tree.

Because we don’t live in Berkeley. We live in Stockholm, where, last year, Erik’s friend and her three-year-old brother each got, among their many gifts (more than three each, I assure you), their own iPads.

Now, we’re not contemplating twin iPad purchases, but the standards are out there. Kids talk about these things.

Our family can make its own choices. And we do.

It’s just that I get a little tired of always being the one that does things differently. The only family in the entire lower elementary school that doesn’t attend the “fritids” after-school programmes.

The only family that dresses up as, say, Yoda or a crocodile instead of a skeleton or a witch for Halloween.

It would be nice to blend in, at least some of the time.

But I do have hope for reconciling Swedish and US Christmas traditions. I know we have more in common than just presents.

A nation that watches Karl-Bertil Jonssons Julafton every year must include other everyday parents that feel pulled by Christmas like I do.

So can we keep the flood of Christmas stuff at bay this year?

Can we find a niche that’s right for us, a comfortable blend of our family’s two identities?

Robert and his family are flying in from California to celebrate with us. I’m sure he will have some tips for me."


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: christmas; consumerism; consumption; ipads; scandinavia; sweden; xmas
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1 posted on 12/22/2011 7:17:21 PM PST by WesternCulture
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To: WesternCulture
Buying an ipad for a three year old is Nature's way of telling you that you have more money than is good for you.
2 posted on 12/22/2011 7:22:40 PM PST by hinckley buzzard
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To: WesternCulture

wow.

This person is a materialist to the nth degree, even while trying to eschew it or at least try to explain how they aren’t.


3 posted on 12/22/2011 7:23:13 PM PST by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Pursue Happiness)
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To: hinckley buzzard

You’re right. Everyone knows they prefer iPods.


4 posted on 12/22/2011 7:25:15 PM PST by moehoward
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To: WesternCulture
"...but the only reindeer I’ve seen around Stockholm come in sausage form."

That's a keeper.

5 posted on 12/22/2011 7:25:15 PM PST by sinanju
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To: hinckley buzzard

It’s not an issue of money, it’s an issue of lack of common sense.


6 posted on 12/22/2011 7:27:48 PM PST by fieldmarshaldj (If Newt Gingrich is a Reliable Conservative, Joe Biden is a member of MENSA)
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To: WesternCulture

Are Swedes even more shy of speaking publicly of the nativity than Americans are? At least in America, the Christmas carols are ubiquitous this time of year and at least half of them are fundamentally Christian, not just Santa Claus and snowman stuff.

Maybe they should get a cute white metal tree, one that can be reused every year, and fill it full of explicitly Christian ornaments. And keep one or two of the ornaments out on the mantel all year. Don’t worry about the gifts or the Ikea, just have lots of rummage sales when they become too humdrum as consumerist stuff always does. That would be truer to the spirit.


7 posted on 12/22/2011 7:34:11 PM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Sometimes progressives find their scripture in the penumbra of sacred bathroom stall writings (Tzar))
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To: fieldmarshaldj
It’s not an issue of money, it’s an issue of lack of common sense.

Yeah, what could these people be thinking?

It's like buying paper and pencils for kids when there's perfectly good stone to make tablets with....

Sheesh!

8 posted on 12/22/2011 7:34:35 PM PST by papertyger
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To: fieldmarshaldj
“It’s not an issue of money, it’s an issue of lack of common sense.”

- There is common sense behind it all, but perhaps a less common sort of common sense.

The average mind of an IT careerist pretty much works like this:

“Perhaps, my 3 year old child will not become the next Steve Jobs, but, at least, I've done my best.

I bought him/her an iPad.”

9 posted on 12/22/2011 7:39:41 PM PST by WesternCulture
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To: WesternCulture

But Christmas anywhere IS about a present

The greatest present of all...

For God so loved...that He gave..John 3:16


10 posted on 12/22/2011 7:39:44 PM PST by Tennessee Nana
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To: HiTech RedNeck
“Are Swedes even more shy of speaking publicly of the nativity than Americans are?”

- No.

In this regard, the Christmas carols we sing are pretty much the same as those sung in America, Britain or Germany.

However, Sweden is unique in the way it truly is a Christian nation although Christianity seldom interfere with everyday life.

Most Swedes belong to the Church of Sweden (like I do), the largest Lutheran church on Earth. But church attendance over here is a joke.

Most of us are immensely proud over the magnificent churches in our part of the country, but churches don't grow like beautiful flowers and proud trees in the wild.

I'm not Freud, but perhaps we secularized Swedes feel bad about not finding time enough for religion in our stressed up everyday lives and open up our wallets instead of opening our hearts to things that matter more than iPads?

Guess we're not the only ones around behaving like this..

11 posted on 12/22/2011 8:02:56 PM PST by WesternCulture
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To: Tennessee Nana
“But Christmas anywhere IS about a present

The greatest present of all...

For God so loved...that He gave..John 3:16”

- You're right in pointing this out.

Being generous might not be a bad way of celebrating God's greatest gift to Man.

Best of regards and Merry Christmas from Gothenburg, Sweden to the state of Tennessee!

12 posted on 12/22/2011 8:09:50 PM PST by WesternCulture
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To: WesternCulture

When I was three, I was making mudpies under a tree in my yard.


13 posted on 12/22/2011 8:14:36 PM PST by fieldmarshaldj (If Newt Gingrich is a Reliable Conservative, Joe Biden is a member of MENSA)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

When I was three I didn’t even have a yard.

City apartment.


14 posted on 12/22/2011 8:15:50 PM PST by Mears (Alcohol. Tobacco. Firearms. What's not to like?)
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To: Mears

Ah. How old were you when you first started to roll drunks ?


15 posted on 12/22/2011 8:24:46 PM PST by fieldmarshaldj (If Newt Gingrich is a Reliable Conservative, Joe Biden is a member of MENSA)
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To: Mears

Apartment?

- You were lucky to live in a house!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xe1a1wHxTyo


16 posted on 12/22/2011 8:34:54 PM PST by WesternCulture
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To: WesternCulture

“...We’re not particularly religious, so we don’t spend time at church...”

There is the problem. No Church, no Bible, and no sacrifice equals their Christmas materialism.


17 posted on 12/22/2011 8:35:52 PM PST by Monterrosa-24 (...even more American that a French bikini and a Russian AK-47.)
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To: WesternCulture

“...We’re not particularly religious, so we don’t spend time at church...”

There is the problem. No Church, no Bible, and no sacrifice equals their Christmas materialism.


18 posted on 12/22/2011 8:36:28 PM PST by Monterrosa-24 (...even more American that a French bikini and a Russian AK-47.)
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To: WesternCulture

Merry Christmas to you Sweden

Is God Jul! correct ???

:)


19 posted on 12/22/2011 8:42:52 PM PST by Tennessee Nana
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To: fieldmarshaldj

When I was 3 I was cute

:)

Oh and liked dollies...


20 posted on 12/22/2011 8:45:13 PM PST by Tennessee Nana
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