Posted on 10/17/2016 4:04:26 AM PDT by Morgana
Depends. Narcissists can feed each other's ego and as stuck up as these two sound then it could be long term.
Since when do people drag their offspring to a formal wedding?
Would they insist upon taking their children to a cocktail party or evening dinner affair?
Am I so hopelessly old that I understand and invitation to Mr and Mrs or Ms does not mean and Family included?
The bride has every right to host a wedding of her choice. Why, I know of one bride whose close relative refused to attend her wedding because she refused to move the date to one more convenient to the relatives schedule
This author comes off as spoiled and elitist. Her smirk and snide are palpable
Fair enough, but the bride sounds like an insufferable witch.
We had children at the ceremony if people wished. The reception was a sit down dinner. We limited the number of people due to financial considerations No big deal
I have been to several truly memorable weddings which had lots of kids. The kids added a lot to the affair.
The free photo booth was a huge hit. I mean a giant hit with kids. As well as with the adults. I have pictures of myself as a the world’s first steampunk Indian Chief.
Hilarious.
This is my feeling as well. Generally an evening wedding with a later reception is a formal black tie affair and an event that in past times guests would know would be without children present. It is definitely the choice of the couple to plan how they would like their event. What is more offensive is the idea that you pick a church to get married in because the architecture is stunning as opposed to say any connection you have with God. A church is merely a pretty building and the wedding merely a party to show off your good taste and maybe score some nice gifts that will be divided up during the divorce.
Ah, Yes! That is how I learned it from my Lutheran pastor. Anyone can walk in on the wedding and attend, the reception is restricted. That said, how many people really like to attend weddings? Be honest....
The nicest wedding I’ve attended have been put together on a shoestring.
Yep, no one seems to believe that “children should be seen and not heard” anymore.
My wedding was simple, but elegant. I didn't think it was all that expensive, it certainly wasn't a "destination wedding". We all ate well, and (for the family, not Mrs WBill and I) wound up becoming a week-long party. It was also the last time that my grandparent's generation all got together for anything. They've all since passed.
So....all these years later, what do people talk about? How beautiful the location was (no) or the bride's dress (no) or whether or not the flowers precisely matched the napkins on the table (hahaha)? Nope, they talk about the people who were there, who they saw - in some cases - for the first time and/or the last time.
Author of this piece should keep her eye on the ball.
I LIKE the “Candy Bar” idea. I will have to add that to my list of children’s ideas for our church.
We normally do the Children’s programs and my adult daughter runs the puppet ministry.
I noticed that, too. She actually seemed to believe that a couple of hundred people would prefer traveling to New York (from Kentucky, I guess) to pay attention to her over any other use of their time and resources.
An ex and I had a dinner party years ago and this couple thought it would be a good idea to bring their darlings. Mind you, this was kind of late - eating around 8-ish- and most of my time was spent putting milk in sippy cups, finding a bag to put a dirty diaper in, trying to get dinner on the table while avoiding the kids running around in the kitchen while the parents proudly bragged about school, play dates, etc.,... THEN, I had to make pb&js for the kids because they didn’t like what I made while everyone else was sitting down eating.
Grrrrr....... I still can’t stand that couple.
It’s sad, but the days of the sweet bride marrying in the church she grew up in, with the family present that raised her, including their families, seem to be over.
And it’s sad. If we never invite children to weddings, how will they ever witness a wedding and aspire to ever have one of their own?
Our culture is a reflection of what we have wrought: excessive materialism, self centeredness, anti-family values. What else would we expect?
Our own daughter fought us tooth and nail when we insisted that the wedding WE were paying for be attended by as many family members as would travel to the event. In the end, it was a beautiful wedding with all of us together for likely one last time, and the pictures of the children in attendance were darling. No one acted up in any way. She has the pictures now, and looking at those memories gets sweeter every time.
Either an inexpensive wedding or an expensive one can be very nice if the hosts and guests are considerate. I went to one wedding at which thousands of dollars had been spent on the gown and the reception venue, but the guests couldn’t find anything to eat. After three glasses of champagne with nothing to eat but a cheese cracker, my mom and I had to leave before she was too spiffled to drive.
“witch”
Rhymes with. . .
The “Candy Bar” was a huge hit with the under 16 crowd. As a DRE, my wife works with all ages from preschool to young adults so she knows what works. I was just there to say “I do”. :)
Don’t know about others but I try to do that. Guess people’s generosity at our wedding got to me, even folks from our workplaces gave us more than what we paid per person. (Not that they knew what we paid, but it was a nice place)
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