No, Your Kids Can <i>Not</i> Come to My Wedding

wlky.com ^ | October 16, 2016 | wlky

[1Old Pro]

They were invited to share in the joy.

Then you've never been to an Italian wedding, they keep lists and have long memories :)

[Vermont Lt]

Its funny you say that. My wife is Italian. We paid for our own wedding and we were “up against it” as it came down to making cuts from the invite list.

My father in law came over and said, “You need to add these 13 couples.” My future wife was almost apoplectic.

He just said, trust me. We’ve been going to their weddings for 20 years. There is only ONE of you.

The list came through for us. So...you are right. They were just waiting for our turn to come around.

[Albion Wilde]

many women don’t feel the need to take their little darlings to the cry room. It never fails, right when the priest is talking, and softly at that some brat belts it out like an opera singer. Same kid every week too. Have been there while that same kid won’t shut up during the entire sermon. I can’t hear the Priest at all and miss everything he says. Just no consideration.

At our (reformed) church, the kid who does this is the pastor's granddaughter and the mother who lets it happen is the pastor's daughter. Not just screaming, but tantrums, putting her shoes on the kneelers at the altar rail, talking, and throwing things. We've also been treated to several admonishments from the pulpit about how important it is for young parents with children to feel welcome to attend the service. I'm at the end of my rope.

[Morgana]

“At our (reformed) church, the kid who does this is the pastor’s granddaughter and the mother who lets it happen is the pastor’s daughter. Not just screaming, but tantrums, putting her shoes on the kneelers at the altar rail, talking, and throwing things. We’ve also been treated to several admonishments from the pulpit about how important it is for young parents with children to feel welcome to attend the service. I’m at the end of my rope. “

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As you know, if you don’t already I grew up in a different church. The one I grew up in, the pastor’s kid/relatives would have NEVER done that. Good heavens, I know pastor’s kids who have renounced religion just because their parents were so tough on them to be “extra good” in church. All eyes were on them to set an example. Now you could not pay them to set foot in a church.

There is taking too far then there is not doing enough to keep your kids in line. When we went out in public my Grandmother would say “now be on your best behavior” and I knew what she meant. Do parents/grandparents not say this?

[VermiciousKnid]

LOL, I don’t blame you a bit. 23 years ago, I was planning my wedding at the same time as one of my cousins. We were to be married 2 weeks apart, with the same level of formality, i.e., FORMAL Catholic Nuptial Mass, and approximately the same number of people (mostly family): 300.

Bottom line: His wedding was in rural Vermont and the cost per head (for the reception) was $16.00. My wedding, on the other hand, cost $67.50 per head for the reception — PLUS, to save costs, I did not have a Saturday wedding. Mine took place on a Friday night. It was the first time I’d ever heard of such a thing, and had to check with my priest to see if I could even do it. (I could.) Had I gone with the Saturday date, it would have cost $110/person.

You may ask, why not have it in the church hall? Good question. The answer is: Our parish did not and does not rent out the hall for private events. There was one Knights of Columbus hall that was large enough for our family, but they wanted $45/person JUST for the hall rental: No food, no tables and chairs, no music, no bar...JUST the hall. It was actually cheaper to go to a large catering hall. So I did.

Regards,

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

Kids, unless they are part of the wedding, do not enjoy going to weddings.

They get stuffed in uncomfortable clothes, forced to sit quietly while adults in funny costumes drone on and on and sing sappy songs then they go and have to continue to be on their best behavior while eating weird food and not getting to drink any of the fun soda pop that the adults get.

Really why would you want to take any of the under 12 set to a wedding?

And very few of the over 12 set would want to go either.

I didn't have a "no kids" rule at my wedding but I can see why people would want to if they were having a formal affair.

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

My father said, the morning of my wedding, “Look, if you decide not to marry him, we’ll just have the reception anyway.”

My dad told me that if I wanted we could sneak out the back and go for ice cream instead.

Sometimes dad's know the perfect thing to say to calm their nervous daughters down.

(Going on ten years. Where does the time go?)

[Albion Wilde]

As you know, if you don’t already I grew up in a different church. The one I grew up in, the pastor’s kid/relatives would have NEVER done that.

Ours is very Apostolic and Bible-based. It's mind-boggling that this behavior, especially around the altar rail, is not viewed as disrespectful to the Lord.

[Jim Noble]

Too much time thinking about a wedding.

Not enough thinking about a marriage.

[Jim Noble]

However, every bride has a right to the wedding she envisions

What a crock.

[sneakers]

What a crock?

Why?

Why is it not her right to plan her wedding the way she wants? Hopefully, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event for her and her fiance. It should be what they want. Boy, people on this board have been quick to judge, sounding like a bunch of liberals:

“I don’t like it so everybody shouldn’t like it”, I had kids at my wedding so she should have kids at her wedding.” “She must hate kids”, “I am a vegetarian so everybody else should be too.” Whaaaa whaaaaaaa whaaaaaaa!

How about “live and let live”? I have no idea who this woman is, and I may not agree with her or may not do it the way she is, but I respect her right to have her wedding the way she wants.

Geez!

[Tax-chick]

I was only 22 and too ditzy to be nervous. If we could see the future ...