Posted on 08/02/2012 11:33:54 AM PDT by Sir Napsalot
(snip) ... Similar dating advice can be found in arcane classics like Advice to a Young Wife from an Old Mistress and the more recent Secrets About Men from the Mayflower Madam (who trained her “girls” in deportment and other finishing-school finer points).
Advice like: Don’t act like a slut (in public). Listen. Be gracious and grateful.
And don’t talk too much.
The Jezebels are outraged.
“These writers want us to go back to the ’50s!” they type furiously.
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In the July 4 Daily Mail, Sarah Bridge asks, “Are women like me too critical to attract a man?”
Here’s an excerpt:
Single at the age of 39, I’ve often wondered why none of my relationships lasted the distance, but had always put it down to luck and timing ....“Your problem is that you’re really snippy,” he said.
“Snippy?” I asked, not entirely sure what he meant.
“Yes, snippy,” he said. “Abrupt. Critical. If someone says or does something wrong, then you’re onto it straight away. Men will ignore a lot of things if they fancy someone — a weird dress sense, or taking hours getting ready to go out — but they hate being put down or made to feel small. You can be funny, but sometimes it’s way too close for comfort.”
Now, should you read the original piece online, which includes two photos of the writer, you may have other ideas about why Bridge remains unattached.
(Excerpt) Read more at pjmedia.com ...
Take her to the beach, LOL.
Now that’s funny!
These couples need to meet somewhere in the middle.
One couple I know...she's got a nice voice but she goes on and on and on...
Her husband sighs and NEVER has anything of substance to say. My take on it is that she's desperate to get some leadership from him on issues and thinks that by constantly engaging him it will happen. I think if he gave his perspective on things she would talk less. Who knows? Maybe this is true in general.
Liberal American females are brought up today to be narcissitic parasitical sadistic obsessive-compulsive collectivist morons with delusions of godhood.
Other than that, they’re fine.
LOL! You’re female, clearly. Poor guy, you think he’s wrong even when he stays quiet.
“Norm, did Elaine ever own a horse?”
ROTFLMAO!!!!
Mrs. Bennett is a hilarious character. One of Jane Austin’s best. Mr. Bennett knows just about anything can send her into a case of the vapors so he just ignores her.
One of the greatest novels EVER still hilarious stuff.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fHxFS9PiYM
You Talk Too Much - George Thorogood and the Destroyers
You talk too much, you talk too much
I can’t believe the things that you say everyday
If you keep on talking baby
You know you’re bound to drive me away
Now you get on the telephone with your girlfriend
Your conversation baby ain’t got no end
Yakety-yakety-yakety-yak all the time
You keep on talking baby drive me out of my mind
You talk too much
I can’t believe the things that you say everyday
If you keep on talking baby
You know you’re bound to drive me away
Well I laid out in the afternoon I start to nappin’
You walk into the room with them jaws a-flappin’
You keep that motormouth moving morning, noon and night
You keep on talking baby make my head turn white
You talk too much
I can’t believe the things that you say everyday
If you keep on talking baby
You know you’re bound just to drive me away
I think you’re trying to put me through some kind of test
I’m begging you baby won’t you give it a rest
You talk about people that you don’t even know
Keep it up baby I’m gonna pick up and blow
You talk too much
I can’t believe the things that you say everyday
If you keep on talking baby
You know you’re bound to drive me away
Don’t get me wrong baby I don’t mean to complain
But if you keep on talking you’re gonna drive me insane
You keep on talking all around the clock
I’m begging you baby won’t you please stop
You talk too much
I can’t believe the things that you say everyday
If you keep on talking baby
You know you’re bound to drive me away
I'm judging him on his lack of leadership/ideas.
They have very troubled soul for a daughter and one of the reasons the wife talks so much IMO is to get him to get creative and try to actively solve their problems.
I have seen this dynamic in other couples over the years. Of course not all.
One of my favorite Bill Engvall routines:
I was at the gym the other day working out with my buddy. My buddy Joey. And he goes “Hey, man, I’m getting a divorce.”
I said “Wow, that sucks. Can you spot me?”
That was our whole conversation! So then I go home to my wife, and I say “Hey, Joey is getting a divorce.”
She goes “Oh, my God! What happened?”
“I dunno.”
“What do you mean you don’t know? Is she cheating on him, is he cheating on her?”
“Again, I’m not holding anything back here, I don’t know!”
She goes “Bill, someone tells you they’re getting a divorce and you don’t ask any questions?”
And I go “Well, that’s because he didn’t ask me a question! He didn’t say ‘Hey Bill, what do you think about me getting a divorce?’, he said, ‘I’m getting a divorce’, which said to me, ‘I require no further input on your part.’”
If he had said ‘What do you think about me getting a divorce?’, I’d have said, ‘Well, you’re gonna be dating again, so you should work on your abs’.
Terrific stuff. With my late wife (whom I loved desperately) I was so thankful to have her have a couple of friends she could talk to for hours on end. That way I only had to listen to the crap that bugged her only once or twice.
And being a public school teacher she had PLENTY of crap that bugged her.
The sigh is the telltale sign of all husbands worn to a nub by years of criticism from a chatterbox harridan of a wife. Watch and see what happens the next time he opens his mouth. Wrong again!!! Bzzzttt. Just not worth the effort to divorce her but not quite to the blow your brains out stage, so he sits and sighs.
On day God brought his cupped hands down to Adam and opened them saying, “Adam, this is female. Her name is Eve.” And Adam was happy.
But after a few days he - of course - did something incomprehensibly, stupidly male for which Eve immediately started bitching him out.
Adam was confused and not knowing what to do, looked to the heavens and said “God, I don’t understand this. I need help.”
God realized he had been tired when creating Eve and made a couple flaws that were now, too late to fix.
He thought, for what were in Gods terms, a long time and finally brought his cupped hands down before Adam. He opened them saying, “Adam, this is dog.”
And Adam was happy.
Far from it. She is very much in love with her husband...they have been married over 30 years. I have never heard her say anything nasty about him. I have heard him cut her in what he perceives to be a joking way. But she is a sensitive person.
She is affectionate and everyone loves her. But she has struggled with various things. Her husband had an affair years ago and she has suffered from some depression. She is now a regular church-goer (he does not attend) and that seems to be helping her somewhat. My take is that she wants her husband to connect more with her intellectually (offer ideas, for example, with the raising of their kids and provide spiritual leadership) and that is why she is a chatterbox.
Oh my gosh! LOL! I’ve had that EXACT conversation with Hubby!
I think it’s weird that he doesn’t know and he thinks it’s weird that I not only know why my friend is getting divorced, but I also knew six months before her husband.
It could be that you’re completely mis-interpreting what is going on.
He isn’t lacking in leadership or conversational skills. He’s just been talked to death and he knows that if he gives anything but monosyllabic replies, it encourages her... and she won’t shut up for hours on end.
My finding is that women simply talk too much. Period, end of discussion. You can’t get a “yes” or “no” answer out of a woman. You get a “yes” or “no” followed by 10 minutes of justification, explanation, second-guessing and analysis.
That's what friends are for, apparently, lol.
The people I grew up around didn't need to be asked - we were a bunch of story tellers - joke tellers - opinion pontificators - excuse me while I go off on a rant that would put Dennis Miller to shame.
As a result I figured that if someone had something to say - they would SAY IT.
Big mistake.
I took (and am taking) her advice and now ask questions of people and it is amazing the response I got and am getting.
I asked my normally quiet friend a few questions about marriage and fatherhood to test her theory - we had a deeper and more meaningful conversation in that one hour that the previous ten hours we had spent talking together.
Other than the impression of people on my Crew team - where I was all business - nobody has EVER accused me of not talking enough. Not asking leading questions? Yes. Not having PLENTY to say on my own. NEVER!.... hardly ever! ;)
So do you think asking leading questions would improve the conversation most couples have?
Believe it or not, this is the primary contributing factor to the ever increasing divorce rate. Women have assumed the role of men while abandoning their role resulting in the emasculation of men as well. It's a lose, lose and lose proposition thanks to those man-haters of the '60's Bella Abzug, Gloria Steinem, and their bull dyke ilk. This was one of the progressives' crowning achievements, necessary in destroying the fabric which holds America together; the family unit. For some reason, heterosexual females fell for this ploy. It only took one on the block who in turn pressured her 'stay at home mom' neighbors to feel guilty about their role and join the bra-burning club. The only thing that became of this was skyrocketing prices of consumer goods and housing, and children abandoned to be raised by faux moms who can't even speak English. Denial of God's plan for a man and a woman is having disastrous consequences in every way imaginable.
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