These couples need to meet somewhere in the middle.
One couple I know...she's got a nice voice but she goes on and on and on...
Her husband sighs and NEVER has anything of substance to say. My take on it is that she's desperate to get some leadership from him on issues and thinks that by constantly engaging him it will happen. I think if he gave his perspective on things she would talk less. Who knows? Maybe this is true in general.
LOL! You’re female, clearly. Poor guy, you think he’s wrong even when he stays quiet.
It could be that you’re completely mis-interpreting what is going on.
He isn’t lacking in leadership or conversational skills. He’s just been talked to death and he knows that if he gives anything but monosyllabic replies, it encourages her... and she won’t shut up for hours on end.
My finding is that women simply talk too much. Period, end of discussion. You can’t get a “yes” or “no” answer out of a woman. You get a “yes” or “no” followed by 10 minutes of justification, explanation, second-guessing and analysis.
The people I grew up around didn't need to be asked - we were a bunch of story tellers - joke tellers - opinion pontificators - excuse me while I go off on a rant that would put Dennis Miller to shame.
As a result I figured that if someone had something to say - they would SAY IT.
Big mistake.
I took (and am taking) her advice and now ask questions of people and it is amazing the response I got and am getting.
I asked my normally quiet friend a few questions about marriage and fatherhood to test her theory - we had a deeper and more meaningful conversation in that one hour that the previous ten hours we had spent talking together.
Other than the impression of people on my Crew team - where I was all business - nobody has EVER accused me of not talking enough. Not asking leading questions? Yes. Not having PLENTY to say on my own. NEVER!.... hardly ever! ;)
So do you think asking leading questions would improve the conversation most couples have?