It could be that you’re completely mis-interpreting what is going on.
He isn’t lacking in leadership or conversational skills. He’s just been talked to death and he knows that if he gives anything but monosyllabic replies, it encourages her... and she won’t shut up for hours on end.
My finding is that women simply talk too much. Period, end of discussion. You can’t get a “yes” or “no” answer out of a woman. You get a “yes” or “no” followed by 10 minutes of justification, explanation, second-guessing and analysis.
The fact that his daughter is completely messed up shows that you don't know the facts of the matter. I'm glad the mother is now going to church to seek spiritual guidance. It would be nice if her husband had shown some leadership in that area years ago. They might have avoided some of their troubles. His affair also indicates that he hasn't been much of a leader.
You can’t get a “yes” or “no” answer out of a woman.
Perhaps true with the women you're involved with. But you paint with a broad brush. I'm pretty sure there's a few women out there who are different than yours. Maggie Thatcher wouldn't have gotten far if she had been the kind that you apparently know.