"Hello, ladies!"
Posted on 07/31/2012 5:07:35 AM PDT by Sir Napsalot
A new study suggests that—no matter how platonic you imagine a relationship may be—every man you know but aren’t related to is trying to sleep with you. And what’s worse, they think you’re trying to sleep with them right back.
Yes, really.
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And while this unique insight into the male brain is troubling for male-female friendships around the world—including your insistence that you “stay friends” with all of your exes—the findings are much more disturbing when put into the context of the workplace. What about the platonic relationships you have with your male colleagues? Do male supervisors believe their female subordinates are in love with them? How does that shape corporate culture, the assessment of female employees and women’s advancement in the office?
(Excerpt) Read more at forbes.com ...
BTW, no, not every woman I have met or worked with, not by a longshot.
It might be safe to say that part of the male mindset is to evaluate whether a woman is a potential mate, but there is so much to remove a woman from that category these days (not to mention mentally declaring one's self ineligible to participate) that the biology comes in a distant second to other considerations.
It is interesting that the writer perceives men as being led about solely by their glands, mindless slaves to their hormones.
I agree that the article is BS, but I believe implicit in its claims is that men in the workplace interpret practically any action by women as overtures, or at least demonstrations of interest.
I would think it would take quite an ego not to think the opposite.
The plumber’s here now. How’s that for cryptic.
Max: Hey Ben, what’s this I hear about you sleeping with my wife?!
Ben: Honest Max, not a wink!
implicit in its claims is that men in the workplace interpret practically any action by women as overtures, or at least demonstrations of interest.
That is also what I understood the article to be saying. I didn't click through to the "Scientific American" article which inspired the "Forbes" commentary, nor to the original study report, so I don't know if this perception originated in the study data or in the mind of the "Forbes" writer.
IK do not think I misunderstood. The issue is men lusting after women. Your post seemed to say that you are not one about whom men in your circle have sexual fantasies about. I merely observed that pregnancy and women with babies are triggers for male sexual fantasy.
If I may butt in here, I think you’re still misunderstanding.
I believe she was suggesting that men would be daft to assume that such a woman was fantasizing about them—which is the dynamic this article addressed.
Let me be more specific:
I don’t trust any male to read my mind and understand that I am only interested in my husband (or to believe me when I expressly say so). I don’t trust any male to not misinterpret innocent gestures as sexual overtures or to act on their assumptions.
That may stand as the most illiterate post I have scribed. And, yes, there is competition.
I agree, while men are naturally more forward, they are equally as diverse as the gals in choice, interests, desired attributes and selectivity.
Almost all men are thinking about sleeping with almost all women they meet. Women are thinking about it too . the only difference is women are more selective in their fantasies preferring better looking men. Even if married,neither are faithful at least in their mind . relationships suck. what is it the bible say s about if you lust in your mind it is as if you had committed adultery. all have and this I know to be true. None are innocent here, neither males nor females
"Hello, ladies!"
Three questions occur within 7 seconds of meeting a woman, any woman:
1) Could I sleep with her?
2) Could I pay the price (all aspects)?
3) Is she worth it?
For most well-adjusted and well-relationshipped men, this mental subroutine occurs in the background and it requires some effort to be aware of it. Go ahead, look for it - you’ll find it.
Now, for the happily married man, the answers to the questions are all happy ones:
1) Could I sleep with her? OF COURSE!
2) Could I pay the price? NOT A CHANCE!
3) Is she worth it? ARE YOU KIDDING?
But once you’re in relationship trouble, those answers get harder to swallow. And for most single guys, where the answer to #1 is NOT A CHANCE, the answer to #2 is I GOTTA TRY, and #3 depends on the time of day, the BAC, and a variety of other factors all too familiar to those who have been single after age 20 or so.
Better looking man: 
Wow wow wow .... I didn’t know Billy Jeff is a Freeper.
Pretty much. Women will give a different answer to this question and/or possibly have an affair depending on the attractiveness of the male. Not all cases of course..many have core values, will not stray no matter what but many do not and will act if given the chance with the right male.85-90% of divorces initiated by women is telling.
This Saturday Night Live skit about sums it up though it is slightly off target...extremely funny and to the point... regarding women and attraction from the right male.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY
“There’s a difference between harboring thoughts vs. acting thereon.”
Of course. However, the fact that such thoughts exist shows that the idea that a man and woman can be “just friends” is pure wishful thinking. Knowing this can make you forewarned and prepared for your own feelings as well those of others, and help you avoid temptation.
Yes, you are correct.
And honestly, I think the men I meet have better things to do with their fantasy lives ;-). I’m not bad for my age, and my husband likes me, but there are lots of prettier women around, many of them dressed to “inspire,” while I am not.
So that’s what accounts for all those peculiar messages left on my answering machine back in the day....
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