[BlackElk]

The Church will not and ought not to self-destruct in order to protect your subjective "feelings." You worst enemy is this chronic wallowing in unjustified self-pity. If that makes me cold, so be it.

[Aliska]

that makes me cold, so be it

Yes, you are cold. That's the main reason I can't bring myself to go back to church and deal with people like you who don't care about how people feel and why they feel the way they do. I don't like wallowing in self pity and I'm sorry if that's another sin I'm guilty of.