[sinkspur]

I'm gonna bet (assuming they have a happy marriage and are dedicated to one another, of course), *abstaining* from sexual relations is not going to be a positive experience for either of them.

For what it's worth, I would never ask them to do that. Just work toward making the marriage valid.

[Saint Athanasius]

But sink,

you are allowing them to commit adultery... that is mortal sin... it is your duty to tell them.