"I guess I draw the line when its a child, or when women were forced, or threated with "blood atonement" etc."
I see no credible evidence that either force was used or "blood atonement" was practiced.
http://www.fairlds.org/apol/ai048.html
Do you consider the LDS Journal of Discourses evidence. I will do a search later today for you. I know it is no longer practiced, but you don't have to look into Utah history far to find it happened.