I can't help it that you don't understand what I'm saying.
You pray for God to act on that mans will..soften his heart or open his eyes however you want to word it...But if God decided to act without your help or permission you say He makes man a puppet..
You're missing the point again. If God influences/'affects' man's actions, man is still a free moral agent, though influenced. If God necessitates/'effects' man's actions, however, it means that man is a marionette, a puppet whose strings are pulled in all things in order to create reactions. My help or permission has nothing to do with it.