If "going to the cops" entails repealing the priest-penitent privilege, a repeal for which there is no small support, then skepticism is indeed warranted. Penitent? What penitent? I don't see a penitent.
Actually, the quotes from psych reports and comments I've seen in the newspapers seem to agree that these guys don't think they're doing anything wrong. They're more like hetero rapists who insist the woman wanted it.
I was referring to the seal of the confessional. Some law and order types have entertained the idea of amending current law so that it no longer respects the privacy of said seal.