It's obvious to any intelligent person that they choose it. Their train of thought must go like this: "I find sex with people of my own sex repulsive. But I will force myself to do it, and pretend that I like it, because I know that it irritates the bejeezus out of fundamentalists. Matter of fact, I will move in with someone of my own gender, and pretend that I'm in love with them, because I want to make a political statement." Who could believe that they don't choose it? Why, it's the logical answer. I mean, they couldn't really be innately attracted to people of their own gender through no volition of their own. Could they?
If its not a choice they must have magnetic pelvic bones.
Some moron wrote a letter to the editor published today (still riding the Santorum comments in these parts), stating as a fact that the debate is over and science has proved that gays are born that way. Which is not true.
But that was beside the point. His point was that Santorum believes in an "unjust" God who makes people gay and then doesnt' want them to express their powerful sexual urges.
Which is a load of crap. This same God also makes people alcoholic (which is more scientifically shown to run in families), but that doesn't mean we should celebrate and encourage them to do what comes naturally. It doesnt' mean that God wants them to drink all they can.
To your acquaintenance's letter, the proper response is only that one can have deep psychological disturbances without this being evidence of an "innate" nature of the disordered attraction.
SD