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Where's Becky? You don't understand. You are thinking like a guy. Per my husband he KEPT questioning him. So, we are back to my initial posts a few weeks ago. He's insinuating he isn't a Christian because he doesn't go to church and this ticks me off. See, I want him to go to church, he knows I want him to go to church. I can get mad and make his Sundays miserable but outsiders best not .

Nag, nag, nag :)

Beckey is in bed, your preacher probably took your husbands word for his salvation, he knows he can't judge another mans heart, he was just trying to get him to see how importaint is is to come to church. and it is.

BigMack

Hey Cindy,

The guy did overstep as far as his questions, IMO. From the account of the visit, after your husband said he would not go to hell, the next question should have been "why do you think you will go to heaven?" If your husbands answer was the correct one, he should have left that topic there Then a short visit to get to know your husband, then left. That way he could have come back. built a relationship. The chances of that getting your husband to church would have been better.

But something that is hard for people to accept is, pastors are human and make mistakes. For a pastor to learn of/from their mistakes they have to be confronted with them. IMO, the reason the bible stresses for us to assemble together is for support, AND teaching each other, that goes for the laity teaching the clergy also.

If it were me:), I would go to that pastor and tell him he blew it. Tell him why, tell him what he SHOULD have said. Then see if the man is a mature enough Christian to apologize. Warn your husband, and tell him to be mature enough to let the man apologize and accept it gracefully. That is what Christians do.

If the man doesn't apologize, I would probably move on, because it seems he must think going to church is part of salvation, or he is the one that needs the icy hot. That is exactly why we changed churches a while back. The preacher of our old church refused to see that he was dead wrong about an issue, even when 90% of the men in the church had told him.

I noticed in one of your posts you said you did not like confrontations. No one does. But all Christians should be "family" As long as we keep walls up between us and don't discuss we will never grow in Christian love, IMO. The bible says not to sin in our anger, which tells me we can get angry just don't walk in and cuss the guy:), which I know you wouldn't do anyway. But just walking away without giving the guy a chance maybe just as bad. He may be doing this same thing to others and turning them off from salvation, let alone from coming to church. He needs to learn, and since God sent him to see your husband He must believe you are just the one to set this guy right:)

Becky