[boatbums]

Yet I hear that forgiveness is not for the offender but for the victim. What is forgiveness? Best I can tell its letting go of the desire for vengeance?

I think it is more than letting go of the desire for vengeance. It is letting go of my rights for vengeance. God said, "vengeance is mine, I will repay". I relinquish that to Him and, in that surrender, I am freed from "getting even" or keeping score.

[Big Red Badger]

David didn’t harm Saul when he got a
chance.
God’s Annointed.