I hate to say this but you have to test drive before you buy.
“I hate to say this but you have to test drive before you buy.”
I dated around enough before marriage to find out some women love and craze sex and some have little interest. About 60/40 split.
Genitals aren't made for a test drive. It's the real thing from moment one. If you haven't bought the car before you drive it, you're stealing it.
Yes, but why buy the cow if you are already getting milk?
Then you would be an idiot to seal the deal, especially if the other person was test driven by multiple drivers.
Not according to Gods law
“I hate to say this but you have to test drive before you buy.”
You have identified the primary reason why very few people wait until marriage to have sex. The reality is that not every couple is truly compatible, and waiting until after marriage to find out is a very scary prospect.
But, I do believe in waiting until after marriage because I do not believe we can truly evaluate our own degree of compatibility prior to marriage; and if we go by trial and error, we have to be sexually intimate with many people before finding mr. or ms. right. Every sexual partner prior to marriage damages the potential for intimacy in marriage. Further, the degree to which we act impatiently with a potential spouse when it comes to sex, the more we show we cannot be trusted in marriage to be faithful.
So, waiting until after marriage is a major test of faith. It requires asking God to show us if a particular person is compatible and trusting His answer. This is not a small thing.
All of this presupposes that we have a relationship with God and are seeking His will and approval and blessing on our marriage and family.
The problem with that statement is people are not objects, and a used car test driven many times will never give you the mileage of new. And you don’t need to turn the radio on to tell if a car is for you or not.
Sex is not supposed to be a pass or fail test for potential spouses because it does not help to get to know your partner. It clouds your judgment and often causes unmarried couples to think they have more in common than they really do.
Further people who want to know everything about a partner including the intimacy of sex are actually saying that they have little faith in the relationship. Imagine a lover saying to his fiance “you know we really get along but I need to see how you are in bed before I will commit to spending my life with you.” What does that say?... If she fails to thrill him sexually will he love her less? If so, one can be sure that he never loved her to begin with.
Look at people who have been married 40 and 50 yrs. do you really think sex is the bond that kept them together.
I disagree with your moral and theological assessment. My wife and I did not wait, but we also didn't gain anything from what we did prior to marriage. We were not heading for a good place before we met Jesus and repented.
I also bought a car within the past month while I was quarantined. No test drive, and I owned it for 5 days before I even saw it. Of course, it was new, so I didn't buy someone else's damaged goods.