I don’t involve myself in his affairs unless he asks first. But definitely, if he talks about it and asks, I am going to tell him to look at the school counselor angle and tell him to be careful.
For those peeking in, a school counselor might be a good solution because he/she is employed by the government and should have similar authority to keep things from going into hysterics such as with a CPS investigation.
The school counselor is also approachable by parents to discuss a variety of matters about their child. So in this case, if the father makes an appointment with the school counselor, and talks about ‘potential’ problems of the mother and her boyfriend, the school counselor can call the child in and document what’s going on which can then be used by the parent (father in this case) to get a temporary restraining order. The school counselor’s report can serve as probable cause for the TRO.
One question is whether the school counselor can know the child is safe with the parent in the home where no abuse is taking place. I think the answer should be yes. The school counselor can ask the child directly if they feel everything is good at home, safety, comfort, etc. If the child says yes, the school counselor can write that in the report recommending the child stay with the non-abusing parent pending the outcome of the court case
The thing to be careful for is to confirm the school counselor is not mandated to call CPS at the moment a child abuse incident is alleged. The school counselor is a government position and one would think he/she should have authority to write a report which recommends where the child stays until the court hears the case.
This might work.
The first thing he should is get an experienced ATTORNEY!!!!
Let the attorney devise a plan for evidence
I would absolutely NOT have him play amateur sleuth and not have him make his own plan to gather evidence.
A good Christian family law attorney will know exactly how to proceed. Been there, done that. I ended up with joint custody and a Rock solid Decree. I went through a lengthy jury trial and my ex-wife had a very high profile scumbag atty (2nd of 3 law firms). I “lost” the jury trial but the Judge did much to overturn in the Decree.
It may get costly but it needs to be done.