Maybe in the church circles you run in, but I don't find that to be the case in many churches I've been to. There is a lot of unity that's been happening here in the Syracuse area and most church people I know recognize tat different churches minister to different individuals needs. We are fine with some one going to different churches if that's what they prefer.
The only thing that concerns us about where individuals go is whether or not the church is a Bible believing church.
The salvation of souls is not a competition for who can have the most membership.
Competition and disunity is the Achilles heel of evangelicalism.
Heresy is the Achilles heel of mainline protestantism
Extra-biblicalism is the Achilles heel of Catholicism and Orthodoxy