He is the God of the Living, Do you think God ignores his children in Heaven? Yes, Mary and ALL the Saints are in Heaven and they do Live with our Lord, some seated near him and Yes I do Pray for their Intersession for Your Soul, others like you Soul’s and even My own Soul.
You are in Error and there is Nothing I can say that can help you for others here with much better talents in communication have tried. So All I can do for your Soul is to Pray.
God Bless
Do you wear the scapular as these apparitions noted to do?