That event to which you allude occurs IN HEAVEN, as the Bema Seat of Christ, in preparation for/to the wedding.
At any rate, it is at the hands of a Friend. We know it is at the hands of a Friend because of this Friend’s complete sacrifice. It would be cathartic, but we’d be extremely surprised at the mercy. There will be a lot of “Glory be to God” going on there.
A church that thinks it has too large a hand in the fate of saved sinners will paint this as a miserable purgatory. God hates that idea.